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Charm14 · Sep 13, 2014, 07:01 AM

Earlier I posted this at intro's by mistake.. Hi I'm new , so I dated a guy for 6 months we dated about 8 times in that 6 months . We were very much "in love" but then it turned into more sexual attraction that anything else we broke up again and he hurt me badly (emotionally) and now he wants to get back together , he's always popping back up just when I'm about to get over him , There's somebody else who's lovely and makes me feel more than just a booty call but what should I do? Because I just don't know anymore , sorry for it being so long

Wondergirl · Sep 13, 2014, 08:42 AM

Why not say no to the old boyfriend. Then, do No Contact. Don't apologize or discuss or try to explain or text/call or respond to texts/calls. NO Contact!

Homegirl 50 · Sep 13, 2014, 10:41 AM

If there is someone who treats you poorly, you leave them alone.
He has proven time and again how he is. You go no contact. Break off all contact and do not respond to him at all.

odinn7 · Sep 13, 2014, 03:13 PM

Forget him...he is a user and doesn't really care about you. Sounds like he comes back when he wants to get some and you allow it. Why not stay with the "somebody else who's lovely" and treats you right and just forget about the old jerk? Why are you even trying to make a decision on this? it's a no-brainer.

DoulaLC · Sep 13, 2014, 03:23 PM

You say, "No thanks" to one of them and focus your attention on the other one.

Your choice... do you want the guy who has hurt you badly, and only makes you feel like a booty call, or do you want the guy who is lovely and makes you feel special?

Homegirl 50 · Sep 13, 2014, 04:42 PM

How old are you? I'm wondering why you would even be asking if you should go back to someone who uses you rather than be with a nice person.
Were you considering going back to the user? If so, perhaps you should stay away from both of them. Get over this guy so you can be emotionally healthy before you date someone else

Fr_Chuck · Sep 13, 2014, 06:06 PM

Delete him from Facebook, if he calls, don't answer. If you answer, hang up.

If he texts, don't read it.

If he pops up, tell him to "go to hell" and don't talk to him.

No contact and move on.

Charm14 · Oct 1, 2014, 07:16 AM

Thanks I'm trying what you've said, I know it should be a no-brainer and all but I can't seem to look at it like that

CravenMorhead · Oct 1, 2014, 07:54 AM

It is the jump between the emotional and rational. You know rationally that you should say no, but emotionally you're still unsure. Understand emotionally what is going on and let yourself experience it. Then do what you rational mind knows you need to. Even though it was a short relationship you still need to grieve it. That is going to be what the next little bit is going to be about. Good luck.

smoothy · Oct 1, 2014, 08:28 AM

If you have any self respect, and common sense... you would not allow them back. If they did something once... they almost ALWAYS will do it again. You are far better off moving on without them. You will see the reasons for this in due time. I dated my wife for 3 years before we got married... I've been married for 23 years since... we never broke up even once.

And by the way.....you weren't " Very much in love", nope, no way, no how not at 6 months .....you WERE however very much in lust.....which are the hormones speaking and not the brain.