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Angels223 · Jan 28, 2011, 03:58 PM

I have known this guy for over a year and he lives 8 hours away, which is in Louisiana. Him and his family come to Texas nearly every month and are going to move here in about 2 years. They are in the process of building a house here. I am turning 16 in about 20 days and my dad's rules have always been "no dating util you're 16". My secret boyfriend is 17 and a senior and plans on going to college for two years and then moving here. Which by then I will be graduating high school at the same time and we plan on moving in soon after that, if my dad likes it or not(I am not too young to know what I want to do with my life either). I have had the help of my sister, friends, and his parents to be able to SECRETLY see him for the previous 14 months. My dad is SUPPPPPERRRRR strict and gets mad over really little and stupid things. Me and everyone else that knows about this is trying to think of some way to tell my father about him living in Louisiana. PLEASE give any advise possible. Also just coming out and saying "He lives in Louisiana isn't an option"

love_1235 · Jan 31, 2011, 08:20 PM

Well you might find it hard but there is a few options to this.
You could A) tell you dad openly you have been seeing someone, he is a year older, and it is a long distant relaionship, although he is moving here in a few years, let him no you really like him, and also mention that you are seeing him not dating him. He should appreciate you being honest.
B) You could wait till after you are 16 and tell him you have been hanging out with a boy and you really are starting to like him.

Either which way I hope all goes well,
In the end it is your decion.

cdad · Feb 1, 2011, 03:06 PM

Did you actually meet this person or is this just online?

Angels223 · Feb 5, 2011, 03:25 PM

As you read the extra info I have already said that I've secretly been seeing him for over a year. Meaning I HAVE met him and we have hung out A LOT.

Angels223 · Feb 5, 2011, 03:26 PM

My main problem is telling him that he lives in Louisiana. My dad is so strict that I'm terrified to tell him.

Wondergirl · Feb 5, 2011, 04:06 PM

Well, the mark of maturity is doing the things you don't want to do, whether that is cleaning the bathroom or telling your dad you have been involved with and plan to stick with a boy from Louisiana.

And doesn't the young man deserve better than to be a secret from your own parent? If I were the boyfriend, I'd be angry that you refuse to tell your dad about what's going on right under his nose and behind his back.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 5, 2011, 04:23 PM

IF you are not mature enough to tell your parents the truth, you should not be allowed to date.

Next you have lost their trust and should be punished for going behind their back.

Next his parents have allowed you and helped you break your parents rules, personally they are unfit to be parents and any parents that would do this should be reported.

So tell mom and dad the truth or stop seeing the boy.

Angels223 · May 29, 2011, 07:05 PM

This is not helpful to me. You are not understanding the situation. My dad is EXTREMELY strict. Thanks for you attempt of helping me but your rude approach is not appreciated.

Angels223 · May 29, 2011, 07:06 PM

I live in Texas and my dad has plenty of guns. I don't believe my boyfriend would like to be shot. Thank you for your rude opinion.

Paul94g · Jun 1, 2011, 05:57 PM

Hi, I don't know if you found a solution to this... I have basically the same problem.. Im seeing this girl but she likes 4 hours away on the train but my mum and dad don't know about her.. Im so scared that if I tell them they won't let me go and see her because they will be mad at me or something :(