[Ging1994]

I am so confused my friends told me if I don't kiss my boyfriend he's going to dump me so they told me to dump him they don't really like him well actually they hate him well anyway my other friends who hate him told me asked another girl out and wants to dump me for her and they told him if he dumps me or tries to kiss me or anything like that they will jump him so they told me to break up with him thouse are the friends who hate him I only have one friend who doesn't hate him and used to sort of like him before another guy asked her out said he still likes me I'm not sure if that's what she want to believe or that's what she wants me te hear because she thinks I will go suicidal if I hear the other answer "im very depresed already" well I'm very confused and don't know what to do so please help!! 1:confused:

[letmetellu]

You are at a great age, an age that you should be enjoying every thing that you do. You should not be letting other people determine how you feel. Do the things that you want to do, don't worry about whether your friends dump you or not, if they do dump you they were not very good friends to start with, plus you will make new and better friends as you go through life. You will never be 12 or 13 or 14 ever again so make it a happy time. Don't worry about boyfriends rule how you feel because the boyfriend you have today you may not even like tomorrow... Have fun in life.

[shygrneyzs]

That is one very long and convoluted sentence. Why are you listening to your "friends" who say they hate your boyfriend? Why are you listening to what they are saying about him wanting to dump you and go with someone else? If you want to know if your boyfriend is really planning on dumping you, ask him. If you cannot stand on your own feet regarding what you know to be true versus what you think you know to be true, then you have a problem.

You say you are "very depressed" over the big deal your friends are making, over the stories they are telling you, over the confusion you have. That actually is understandable, because you are choosing to believe every word that comes your way, without really finding out what is truth and what is just some trouble making stories.

Sit down and talk with your boyfriend. If he truly wants to go with another girl, so be it. It is not the end of the world. That just frees you up to get your head straightened out a bit and take time to be a bit wiser. Take some time to enjoy your friends. Maybe find someone who you can have fun with without making dating the primary focus. Don't be in a rush to be serious so fast. Don't get yourself in a postiion where your happiness depends on someone else - be it your friends or a potential boyfriend. Quiet down the drama. Your life needs to be a bit less complicated. You will think clearer and enjoy your teen years. Good luck to you.