[lovelybutterfly]

My boyfriend went through my phone cause I let him then a few months later I want to see his pic in his phone so I was like can I see your phone and he was like no then I keep asking him and he said yes but then he starts deleting messages and so I ask why u deletng stuff and he couldn't give me a answer now I can't stop thinking about it he promise that he wasn't hiding nothing but it kind of hard to believe him cause in the past he has broken every promise he has made to me and I don't know what to do could you give me any advice as to what to do thank you I think your answers would be a really big help to me

[Wondergirl]

Why do couples have to check each other's phones? Why did you let him check yours? Whatever happened to trust?

At my house, we don't open each other's mail, listen in on each other's calls, listen to each other's voice mail, check each other's cell phones and address books. My kids learned first-hand that we respect and trust each other.

[martinizing2]

It is obvious he was hiding something.
But he promised he wasn't.
He has broken every promise he ever made to you.

Why is he your boyfriend?
A relationship should be based on trust and honesty.
If it is not , it doesn't have much chance of lasting.

He has already broken the trust and it can be hard
If not impossible to ever trust someone like that again.

Kick him to the curb and find someone who
Respects you enough to be honest.
You will be much better off not being with a confirmed liar.

[Kitkat22]

Please do not use ANY chat or text speak in your post. Glad to have you here.

[Enigma1999]

It makes sense as to why you want to check his phone... because he has broken his trust before.

Is this how you want to be in a relationship? Always having to keep tabs on him as if he were your child.

You two should feel at ease with each other. His phone should be able to ring, and not have you wondering who is that. Or his phone should be able to receive text messages with out you wondering who is that.

Does that make sense?

Trust and communication are te key to a successful relationship, and with out it, you really don't have a solid relationship.

I suggest that if you really want to stay with him, then you talk to him about your trust issues.

[Cat1864]

I looked at your other threads. Is this the same person: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...on-441640.html

You should be in seventh grade now. You are old enough to learn that not all relationships last and sometimes you have to walk away. When someone keeps breaking promises and seems to be hiding things from you, let him go. Let the relationship go.

DO NOT rush into another relationship until you are over this one. No matter what you see around you or people say, you don't have to be in a relationship. The best relationship you can have right now is one with yourself. Learn what you like and want before you worry about being a couple.

It is better to be single than questioning and worrying about everything your boyfriend is doing. Trying to hold on to something that isn't working is only hurting yourself.

[lovelybutterfly]

No that was my little cousin am like almost 21

[lovelybutterfly]

He had got my phone and was looking at it I don't care I have nothing to hide

[lovelybutterfly]

OK

[lovelybutterfly]

Thanks you're a big help

[lovelybutterfly]

It not that we were checking each others phone he had got me phone somehow and was looking through it and I didn't care because I have nothing to hide and I wasn't trying to look through his phone I just wanted to see his pictures that was it nothing more and maybe he didn't hear me and he just started to delete stuff including his messages

[Wondergirl]

he had got me phone somehow and was looking through it

Anyone who took my phone and looked through it would be out the door so fast, he would have windburn on his face.