[britaay011]

Alrightyyyy, So I have been best friends with this boy named Jake since 7th grade, I am now a senior. He has always had this thing for me, and we dated once in 8th grade but I only saw him as more of a friend. Throughout the years I dated jerks, players, etc.

Me and him were close up until the end of our sophomore year. We had a class together at the beginning of our junior year. We talked as friends again and worked together as partners. But we didn't really hang out. Towards the middle of the year, for some random reason I thought about dating him. I just knew that he would always like me for me and I kind of wanted someone like that in my life. And plus we were friend for the longest time so what more could be perfect?

So I went for it. We ended up dating for like 2 weeks and broke up. It was sort of a misunderstading and we both agreed we missed each other so we dated again. This time we lasted 2 months. It was the last day of school and he was reall acting weird. He has these two freshmen girls that are his "bestfriends" apparently. And he preferred to walk with them on the last day, rather than me. So of course I got mad.

The next two days were brutal. We kind of fought. And then randomly he sadi he wanted to be single for summer. I was upset because I felt it had something to do with his little freshmen. So I said whatever and wanted to enjoy my summer before my senior year. I then started hanging out with one of the most popluar guys in school who had just graduated. We ended up getting close and really liking each other.

Then of course, My ex said he missed me and heard about me and the guy hanging out and I was the only oe for him and I meant a lot to him. And he wanted me to be his. I still had feelings fro him, so I went back. The popluar guy was leaving for basic training in a couple weeks, so I figured it wouldn't work anyway. Me and my ex dated for another 2 weeks and I found out he was hanging out with those girls again behind my back when he knows I don't like them. He tried to be sneaky about it and I just got fed up so I broke up with him. He acted like he didn't care and it hurt me even more than before.

He acted immature and deleted me off Facebook and said we shouldn't talk yet because we need time. I said some pretty mean things to him out of anger, and I think he took it to heart. I said things like"I was done with his bull****, and I should have never taken him back". The popluar guy started hanging out with me again, but now he's leaving in 4 days. My ex acted all happy hanging out with those freshmen girls he even wrote on his staus he was happy because of girls. Then I put up a picture of me and the popluar guy and my ex then started writing stuff on his Facebook status like "I miss you" and "I will love you more than songs can say, but i can't keep living in yesterday" and "just when i thought you were out of head, you come back". Now that the poplular guy is leaving I don't know what to do.

Hes gone fore 8 weeks, then 16 and I won't talk to him because of his basic training. Idk what to do now. Should I try and talk to my ex, because he's stubborna dn he won't talk to me. Or should I just move on and stick with the popluar guy while he's in basic training, even though t would hurt me because I would mss him too much :/ please help I really don't know what the right thing is to do

Ive broken the above text up into smaller more readable boxes for you OP.
You should be here trying to make sense of it. -PP (thanks T.)

[positiveparent]

Ive broken the above text up into smaller more readable boxes for you OP.
You should be here trying to make sense of it.

[Wondergirl]

Give up both of them, and get your own head together. You can't bounce back and forth between two guys. It's not fair to them and not healthy for you. Give up men for a while.

Are you going to college?

[positiveparent]

After breaking your post down into smaller sections, I would say you are better off alone for a while, one guy is going away and the other is obviously bad for you because he beings out jealousy.

Its up to you, however you asked for advice Im giving you my opinion of what I would do in your situation.

It wasn't the length of your post it was that it was in one long paragraph that made it hard to read.

[Homegirl 50]

You need to leave them both alone. The guy who is going away seems to be a rebound or he's popular and the other guy only wants you when you are with someone else.
The way you go back and forth tells me you're not really in to either one of them.
Leave them both alone or at least be honest with yourself and the guy going away.
He is a diversion and he's popular. That's the only reason you're with him.

[Homegirl 50]

But you are still going back and forth between the two. Leave them both alone.
People who are really into each other don't play yo-yo with each other.

[Cat1864]

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Any time someone is torn between two people, it usually because something is lacking in both relationships and something is gained in both relationships. It is generally best to leave both and start over (after healing) with someone who embodies the best traits of both of the people left behind.

[Kitkat22]

You're playing both of them and it's going to blow up in your face.

You go from one to the other. I think both of them should leave you alone.

[talaniman]

The ex is just like you, needs attention from others to feel good about yourselves. No wonder this goes back and forth because neither of you knows the joys of single life, and healthy dating, or the boundaries between friends and lovers. You both can't even cope with your own emotions and are slaves to them, jealousy, insecurity, and think you need someone to be happy.

I can only hope you grow out of it, and see the time, and energy your wasting, and the fun your missing. You need some friends, and things to do that you enjoy, so having someone to call your own, won't be so confusing, as you should be leaving him alone to enjoy his freshman, and you should be doing your own thing without him.

[Kitkat22]

Leave them both alone.