[laurenmorrow]

Okay there's a guy that really like but its complicated... I'm a sophomore in high school and the guy I like is a senior. I've known him sense freshmen year but in about the last two months we have been flirting he sits with we in first period and tells me I'm "Beautiful" and I just smile because I'm "smitin" with him. So 4 days ago he asked me out on a date and I gave him my number. We have talked sense just not on the phone like I would have hoped we exchanged jackets and he had mine on intill Friday when I saw him wearing his ex gilrfriends letter-men who graduated last year and is now in collage I didn't ask but he told me any way that he was washing my jacket:) and then I remeberd what one of our friends told me. She said that when ever his ex comes home they like to mess around... and then she called me to day saying she ran into him and that he interduced his ex girlfriend as his current girlfriend although I know she will we going home in a week or so and she won't be brought back up intill she comes home agina... what should I do?? I don't need a mothers advice.

[aiyerrc]

Don't be his fallback whenever his ex/current GF is in town... he doesn't like you if the situation between him and his "ex" is true...

You also have to think long term here. He is a senior, you are a sophomore, so he's either 18, or will be 18 soon, while you are only 15, maybe 16. He will be going to college next year I assume, and perhaps even to the same college as his ex. Don't give this guy the time of day. Focus on someone or something else.

This may be harsh, but the bottom line is he doesn't think of you in the same way you may think of him if he's running around with his ex whenever she's in town. And one more thing, if something actually did form between you two, you will always have to worry whenever his ex comes in town, or next year when he's at the same college perhaps

Good Luck

[talaniman]

Why give a player what he wants, and go along with everything he says, just because your smitten? That's a lousy excuse for getting played like a youngster who knows nothing.

[amicon]

You're being played that's what's happening. You can stop his/their little games by walking away-lesson learned.

[Jake2008]

I don't think it's complicated at all.

He has a girlfriend, that he introduces as his girlfriend, who he is with when she is in town.

You are what we call, second fiddle, the second course, not the first, the alternate when his girlfriend is not available, the last minute gal in a pinch, the hotdog to his t-bone.

In other words, he does not put you in first place, he is playing you, and likely will continue to at least try, because you let him.

Read the signs. They are quite obvious.