[Refined]

I need help.

I need the best tips possible to stop falling for a guy so hard.
He's my Best friend and I have recently informed him about my feelings for him, he was shocked, confused and speechless.
Now, telling a guy that you like him is nerve racking. And I was nervous with the whole, sweaty palms, racing heartbeat, twisted tongue. All of that.
But anyway.
Everythings normal between us. But I need him. I feel like I may be becoming more and more clingy or the word I'm not too fond of;
Obsessed.

I cannot, I literally cannot get him off my mind. I get frustrated every time he doesn't call me, when he normally does. I have this urge to ring him and talk to him for hours on end.
Sounds clingy, doesn't it ?

But the thing that is killing me is that, He also admitted he is starting to fall for me. But he's the type that it will take some time.
I just need to get over him...

I need to stop this Clingy-ness of needing to talk to him every second of the day.
I need tips and opinions of
- how to get over him
- how to stop thinking about him
- possibly consider other guys ?


Thank you!

[redhed35]

If things are going to develop naturally your going the right wrong way of doing it.. your pushing him away.

Get busy with your life,if you have that much time to think about him you have too much time on your hands.

Go for a walk,take up a hobbie,meet friends.

Dating other guys will possibly give you a little head space and help you not become attached so easily.

When someone is calling you all the time and impenging on your life,they become frustrated and annoyed.

I live in ireland and my daughters have a saying about guys who call and want their company all the time,they call those guys 'dog text' because their always chasing what their not going to catch!

Don't ruin your friendship by becoming annoying and a thorn in this guys side.

If he wants you he will come to you,he knows your interested,leave it there.

[jaime90]

The best thing to do, I think, is to find something else to put all those thoughts and energy towards. (friends, hobbies, your own interests.) It's a really difficult thing to do when you're all over a guy, but if you don't do it, you will go crazy!

If you're both thinking of beginning a relationship (it seems he may be interested in you.. ) It is still a good idea to direct your thoughts more towards #1 (that's you.) Focus on learning more about you, than obsessing over this guy.

You've already developed an unhealthy attatchment to him, and he isn't even your boyfriend.the last thing you want is to become a needy, high-maintenance friend. It's best to establish who YOU are before you get into a relationship. If you do that, you will more than likely avoid getting into this mess again.