[Hmmm3]

Dear Help Desk,
I'm in high school, and I've recently got close with one of my friends, anonymously named Jacob. I am questioning my sexuality, and became extremely interested in him. He claims to be straight, but I beg to differ. He hugs me all the time, but he does talk about women. He says I love you sometimes and compliments me a lot.
He's invited me to many things, and I do see him a lot. We only have one class together, but I see him during rehearsals, and in the morning. He tells me everything that's going on in his life, and I do my best to help him. We occasionally flirt, but nothing too serious. He helps me a lot too.
Usually I would text him first, and we would talk everyday, but I decided not to anymore. A week past and he finally texted me the whole day, along with the next day.
He does tell me about a love interest of his (He just broke a relationship with a woman), I think it's a cover. He's taking her to a formal dance, nd of course, I'm jealous. They are around each other all the time, and it's frustrating.
But I love him. And I don't know what to do next. Any advice?
Please help....

[summer7]

Hi, Are you sure he's flirting? Maybe his ethnic background makes him seem gay to you. I say this because I have an Italian/Irish dad and French mother so we are very demonstrative. I had a friend who thought I was gay because she wasn't used to hugs or any touching. Her parents never touched her.

If his parents are foreign, he's going to be more expressive. Of course it depends where they are from... My 2 cents.

[Hmmm3]

He's very very french. French canadian, I THINK. But I know he's french :)

[Ashley-M]

Why don't you just take the plunge if you like. Haha and tell him how you feel... if your not sure about your sexuality and all that then don't just blurt out that you think your gay and you love him. But just tell him you have all this stuff in your mind and your confused. But you have to ask yourself if you do want something more than friendship to happen with him you know? If you don't... then telling him could make things awkward with your friendship, but if you decide you want more than just a friendship then sitting back and doing nothing probably won't get you anywhere. And yeah it might be a risk if he doesn't feel the same but I'm sure if your both really close you's will both come out of it okay in the end :)

[I wish]

When people have a crush on another person, we have the tendency of twisting the other person's actions into thinking that they might be interested in something more than a friendship. That's called "over-analyzing" all the actions.

A simpler option would be to tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If he does, then great! If he doesn't, at least you can stop "over-analyzing" all the little details and move on with your life.