What should I do?

angle1618 · Aug 4, 2009, 04:33 AM

Okay, me and my boyfriend split awhile ago and I couldn't and haven't gotten over him. He was the first person and only I have ever slept with and I guess that's maybe why I love him so much.

He finished me because he said he didn't want a girlfriend then he told me he wants me but there's things he doesn't like about me like I cry a lot or what ever.

After we split up I didn't no what to do. Some of my mates told me to go out with them and have fun to get him of my mind and it helped. But one night he was at the same club as me and I tried to ignore him but when I was near him he was always pulling this girl to him who he was supposedly seeing.

Before I had asked him if he would ever go back out with me and he said no, but the day after he saw me at the club he was texting me saying he didn't like me dancing with other lads and told me he still had feelings for me even though he was seeing this girl he said he couldn't stop thinking about me but the next day he was completely different with me saying I was annoying and he didn't no what the future would bring so I Just left him but I talked to him nearly everyday with him texting me or ringing me. Next he rings me up telling me he was thinking about how we use to be and that it made him cry then he asked me what would I say if he asked me out and I said yes then he was telling me that he's never been okay after we broke up and he misses when we use to go out then the next day he's completely different again I started talking to him and he was like what like he'd never said them things I can't get over him when he saying all this stuff I sometimes think it's a waist of time.

He will soon be going into the army and my parents don't like him and all my friends say I can do better but that doesn't stop me loving him
I'm 16 and he's 18

What do you think. Yesterday I saw him at the same club and he didn't really talk to me and whenever I went near him he just walked away after I went home I was texting him and ask for him to tell me if he wanted to get back with me and if there was a chance of us getting back together and said ye but he like how he is for now and said lets see how tings go OK and told me he loved me

I don't know if I'm better of without him and I don't know if he's just messing me about can you help please what should I do?

danielnoahsmommy · Aug 4, 2009, 04:38 AM

How old are you? You sound young? He said outright that there are things about you he does not like, why would you want someone who is not willing to accept who you are? You need to ask yourself these questions!

I would try to distract yourself... go have fun with your friends. There is someone for everybody... you will find the right person for you... someone who loves all of you!

angle1618 · Aug 4, 2009, 04:41 AM

I'm 16

danielnoahsmommy · Aug 4, 2009, 04:44 AM

You are so young! I know it feels bad now, but you will find someone else who will love you in fact you will find allot of people who will love you. You will have many break ups and upsets until you find the right one for you!

artlady · Aug 22, 2009, 04:40 PM

He sounds like he is only interested in you when he sees another guy in the picture.

He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you. Its an ego thing.

If you like drama and someone who plays games ,then stick with him because it seems that is all he has to offer.

You sound more mature than he does and you are two years younger.

I think you should let this go as he does not seem to care about you in a committed and mature way.

88sunflower · Aug 22, 2009, 04:50 PM

My first thoughts are what are you doing in a club at 16?

I think you need to just let him go and be over it. Just as Artsy said he only wants you when he sees you with another guy. How is that fair to you when he is flaunting his new girl in front of you. He just doesn't want anyone else to have you so he is playing this yo yo game with you. Honestly, your 16. You will have many more boyfriends or love interests before you find the one. Don't put all your eggs in his basket. He is nothing and he sounds like a child the way he is playing you. Get yourself together and just move past his game.

paxe · Aug 22, 2009, 06:14 PM

He is stringing you along and he likes to have his options open. It's an ego thing. Let him go, you're still young and there is many guys out there.

MiSSsy111222 · Aug 23, 2009, 04:24 AM

My advice is get rid of the loser and cut contact with him. Sorry to be harsh but he is messing with your head.

talaniman · Aug 23, 2009, 10:02 AM

The others have it right, and you need to disappear from his life, and move ahead with your on.

HelpinHere · Aug 23, 2009, 02:57 PM

He's using you.

Manipulating you and causing you pain.

This should be obvious to you. If you can't see the best thing would be to leave him and never look back, then you let him get his hook so deep into you that the barbs are caught and it will hurt to get away. Would you rather have a little cut, or be hung up to die?
(Sorry, a fishing analogy here! :o)

Get away from him.

artlady · Aug 23, 2009, 03:09 PM

I would like to add to my earlier comment that you have to never try to make a man jealous.(not to say you did)

It is a huge mistake and it has proved fatal.

He only pays attention when he is having an ego deflation,because he is not controlling you.

Its not love,its ego!
This is all about him and his ego ,that jealousy is nothing about love.

Be sure you don't confuse the two.

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