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doglover92 · Dec 30, 2008, 06:12 PM

Hello, I am a grade 11 student and I am 16, I really like/love this guy named tyler, he is in grade 12 and he is 18. Tyler is in my moms words slow and hyper; I agree with the hyper part but not the slow part. He asked me out a little while ago and I told him my mom would prob not let me go out with him. I asked her 3 weeks after and she is like no why would you want to go out with someone like that, she said she is scared but I don't understand that. So what I want to know is how can I get my mom to loosen her reins about who I date and who I don't date?

Help me please! :confused::(

bones252100 · Dec 30, 2008, 07:50 PM

Don't! Your mother has so many years more experience with these situations. After many years, you will also have that experience. For now, trust in her judgement. Be glad she is there. One day you may not have her. In between that time & now, ask & learn everything you can from this person who gave birth to you & is now trying to teach you how to live.

brkfstatiffs · Jan 1, 2009, 08:19 PM

I think part of it comes from your mom possibly looking backon her own teen years. She doesn't want the thought of you kissing or doing something more with a guy, especially if she doesn't dig him.

The only thing I can suggest is sit down and talk with her. Tell her you feel like you are old enough to be trusted and you want to experience things. It's natural to live and learn at your age. I would suggest maybe inviting him over for dinner or something so your mom can get a better feel for him.

She just wants to know that her daughter will be in good hands with a guy, and right now for whatever reason she doesn't feel that way. Ask her why - besides the hyper part and slow ( doesn't really make sense) but ask her what her other reasons are. Maybe she just needs to know that she can trust you going out with guys more.

LoveLifeBeHappy · Jan 2, 2009, 11:57 AM

Moms know best, she's just protecting you.
Leave it a few years and if you still feel the same way about him there's nothing stopping you.

Homegirl 50 · Jan 2, 2009, 12:00 PM

Your mom knows best. I would not have allowed my 16 year old to go out with an 18 year old, especially one she thinks she "really likes/loves.
She is not being over protective, she is being a responsible parent of a 16 year old girl.

artlady · Jan 2, 2009, 12:12 PM

Ask her to give him a chance.Have him to the house and let them get to know one another.I would also remind your Mom that she raised you well and she needs to trust your judgment and explain to her that you need to make your own decisions and mistakes to be able to grow.That is how we learn.
I would also remind her that you could have very easily gone behind her back but you have been honest and she should respect that.

Homegirl 50 · Jan 2, 2009, 12:20 PM

This young lady 16, and while she can make decisions on her own, at 16 there are some decisions a parent has every right to make. 16 is still very much a minor and a 16 year old with active hormones don't always make the best decisions. She needs to listen to her mom.
I do agree that maybe she can have her mom meet the kid.