[SilverIce54]

Hi everyone, this is my first post here but I'm hoping you can assist me.

I'm a teen girl, and I know that I'm straight. Although I respect them, I know I have never had any interest in same-sex relationships.
Last night, a close friend of mine told me that she 'likes' me. She slept round my house a few weeks ago and she told me last night she really regrets not telling me then because she hoped something would happen. I asked her what, but she hung up and when I tried to ring her back she rejected the call. I had time to think about it last night and I know that I don't want any more than our current friendship. She wants a relationship and kept saying things like 'It would work, no-one needs to know', etc and I really have no idea what to do now. I told her I was very keen on the idea but I don't think I was clear enough. I feel quite uncomfortable that one of my friends 'likes' me and I suppose in a way I want to put her off. Will her feelings last or is it just temporary? And how can I reduce the embarrassment when we go back to school after the christmas holidays?
Thanks

[N0help4u]

You say you are straight so you do not compromise your sexual preferences to keep her as a friend... do not be confused about that. Then when you go back to school you explain that she can no more make you interested in a same sex relationship than someone could make her be straight. Then tell her that you like your friendship where it is and would like it to continue as is.
If she feels that she has too much interest in you and can not keep it at the level it is then maybe for her sake you will need to let go of the relationship until she can work things out to feel comfortable with you.

[LoveLifeBeHappy]

To answer your two questions, there's no telling if her feelings are temperary or permanent. And there's no way to reduce the emmbarrassment. All you can do is explain how you feel or don't feel.
It may hurt her but you can't just say things to keep her happy.
Good luck, love.

[ja77]

Have a good honest talk with your friend and tell her the way you feel straight and to the point in a way that she will understand.

If this person is a real friend they will have respect for your feelings.

[barbiechick123]

I agree w/ everything that was said... when you see your friend tell her in a non awkward way that you are only interested in boys and that you value her friendship with her... but that's all it is. Chances are she may have thought you liked her too so she got hooked, but since she knows you don't maybe she'll cool off romantically.

[ZoeMarie]

I can totally relate to what you're going through. When I was in high school (it was my senior year) one of my really close friends flipped out on me and asked why I won't either go out with her or leave her alone. I was shocked to say the least because I knew she was bi but had no idea she liked me. After that I didn't know how to be friends with her. We slowly drifted apart after that