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xyabbagabbax · Aug 16, 2008, 12:15 AM

Well to begin, I met somebody new and i started talking to him. I've grown really close to him and i realized that i really like him. But, he's madly in love and i fell for him. Am i a bad person to have feelings for him when i know he's happily in love with someone else. I'm really sad but then i know i should just move on. I don't know what to do. I have so many mixed feelings and i don't know if i should tell him or not. :(

ChihuahuaMomma · Aug 16, 2008, 12:24 AM

You cannot control who you fall in love with. Having feelings for this person isn't bad, acting on those feelings would be. Just focus your attention elsewhere. If this person is with someone else, then you move on. He's obviously not interested, and you should not waste your time and feelings. It will take some time to get over, but with time and NO CONTACT it'll be okay.

xyabbagabbax · Aug 16, 2008, 12:33 AM

Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

You cannot control who you fall in love with. Having feelings for this person isn't bad, acting on those feelings would be. Just focus your attention elsewhere. If this person is with someone else, then you move on. He's obviously not interested, and you should not waste your time and feelings. It will take some time to get over, but with time and NO CONTACT it'll be okay.

Thank you. For the past few days I've been trying my hardest to forget. To get over it. I may feel sad now. But I'll give it time. Things will change. People will come and go and I got to understand that. I have to realize that he isn't interested. The sooner I realize it the sooner I move on.

jrsg · Aug 16, 2008, 08:38 AM

Wow, that was quick, lol.
Great answer Ch.Momma.

Just to build on it though, you can't control who you fall in love with. It doesn't make you a bad person. Just don't act on these feelings. I wouldn't let him know, because then things will be awkward, and you could ruin what you have now. But don't ever think that because you love someone who you think you shouldn't, that you are a bad person.

You are good person, for coming here and asking for advice, then taking the advice and applying it to the situation properly. That's great!

hiyaparis · Aug 18, 2008, 12:20 AM

O honey heck no!!

I've done the same thing.

And though you feel as if you aren't rite to love him... it is so rite.

2L2 · Oct 3, 2008, 04:05 PM

Look sweety the whole no contact thing is the worst thing you can do he's your friend and you shouldn't leave him although I agree that you should do nothing about it you just might be able to move on if you stick around and try to support him and even help him better his relationship... I was in your same situation for a while only he fell for one of my best friends I did this and now I'm totally over him... ah if only I can say the same thing about the one I love now...

Britt198237 · Oct 5, 2008, 11:51 AM

Its definitely not your fault hun. I've done that many times.. in my situations thought I fall for the boy but then things change and we don't really talk anymore and it hurts, but over time it all fades.. stand strong hun and give it time

Bural21 · Oct 5, 2008, 01:07 PM

Personally, I don't think you're a bad person at all. You cannot help who you do and don't love. If it hurts you that you love him so much, I am terribly sorry.. I wouldn't know what to do. You definitely are not a bad person, so do not worry. I always tend to fall for a guy who is taken. Luckily, it all works out for the better in the end. Just be glad he's at least a friend.