[Beenkie]

In school, my health teacher is talking about us losing weight and healthfully and my mom was skinnier than me when she was my age I'm in 7th grd and my mom was 80-90 lbs and I'm different I'm 110-112lbs and I'm average but I'm skinny a lot of people say I'm skinny I'm always on the computer, reading, listening to music or dancing but I'm not like my mom she was gorgeous one guy I dated says she's prettier than me and that made me feel bad and now, my mom is overweight because of skin from being pregnant and I'm worried b.c when I'm around my mom and I tell her things what guys say or she's talking about me in front of people she always says she was skinnier than me but I'm bigger than she was at my age plus, my mom says I have a lot wider hips than she did and when she says that I say well, I have wider hips so.. I need sizes up and I'm already in juniors but I can still fit in girls kid jeans and I love being healthy but I have fat on my stomach and my mom says I have big boobs but not as big as hers at my age but she was so.. skinny but she got pregnant around my age with me.. so.. but I'm NOT pregnant she says I take up after my nana... I isn't involved with activities because of money problems/financial and my mom's afraid ill get hurt because I've already had casts I've fractured my hip and broke my thumb slam off only thing that kept it there was extra bones that aren't suppose to be there... I have serious headaches all the time but that's normal I've had them all my life and I have 6 brothers and 3 sisters... but most of them are either real skinny or real chubby/obese and I'm the oldest but by marriage I'm the second... I try crunches drinking water, running, dancing more, arobics, but they don't work because I can't keep interest or not enough time with school.. n things.. n I love to eat but I eat low fat things because I love the taste.. of them.. n no one knows why.. but, I hate running because of my boobs (sorry but its true) they get in the way and they bounce too much because they're C's... I'm only 12 n my other friend is obese and her's are a C and I'm confused.. but how can I lose not A lot but a little weight about 5 to 10 but not much plus, I'm strong and things.. please help me

[Beenkie]

But... I have not enough money to get the food I want that's low fat because I like it I have to eat like mashed potatoes and I love 'em and everything but I like low fat too.. it's kind of hard... hearing things like that and my dads so... skinny and so.. was my mom... what's wrong

[DJ 'H']

At 12yrs you really should not be worrying about weight. Your friends and family obviously don't realise that the comments they make are having a more personal effect on you.

It sounds to me like you are an average size - which is great. Having a big bust is nothing to worry about. My mum is a and I am a C - my niece is an F. Everyone has different body shapes and different cup sizes - even siblings. My friend Sian is quite short, curvy and is a (cup wise) B. Her sister is a really tall, thin like a stick and an A.

No one of us is the same and cannot be compared to others. At 12yrs old you should not be dieting - you are growing and need to eat properly. You just need to make sure you eat all the right foods and exercise on a regular basis - try to do something you enjoy. I am a Dancer and a swimmer. They are the only two forms of exercise I can do because any other form of sport or exercise is boring & tideous to me.

Just learn to like who you are and to like your body for what it is. Pay no attention to comments that are made. Observations are always made but very rarely does anyone ever mean anything by it. Enjoy your teenhood and worry less about your weight.