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elliot1 · Mar 4, 2007, 12:27 PM

I really like this girl at my school and we have become quite close friends. I really want to tell her I like her but she's in a relationship at the moment. The guy who she's with treats her like dirt and shed be better off without him: all of her friends have told her that. Anyway, she always seems to hug me and find any excuse to touch me and I don't know whether she likes me in the way I like her. Shall I tell her or not?

valinors_sorrow · Mar 4, 2007, 02:22 PM

It depends on your motive here, I think.

If its meant to hurry along her dumping the bad boyfriend then I would say a definite no, not good reason. I would consider that to be interference and somewhat manipulative on your part. She doesn't need "rescuing" either so put away any white knight ideas, should those be occurring -- those belong in movies and fairy tales! LOL

Now if its meant to say never mind everything else, I just want her to know how I feel and I would be telling her this at this point with or without any boyfriend in the picutre, then perhaps yes. Bear in mind that while you are laying your cards on the table, she might not. There is nothing that requires she reciprocate this action.

Only you can tell what your motives are and if they are honorable ones. What I know of how the world works is honorable motives work and dishonorable ones don't, over time.

elliot1 · Mar 5, 2007, 10:51 AM

Thanks for the advice it does help, but I saw her today and one of the first things she said was she is now single lol, I only put this question up yesterday and already its changed, thanks for taking the time anyway