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blonde_banana · Apr 26, 2004, 01:05 PM

About a year ago I had sex with this guy who is now one of my closest friends, and now my best friends is telling me that people still confronting her and telling her that I'm a whore for doing it. They also say that it's the reason I haven't made it into some the higher ranked clubs in my school, because the teachers lost respect for me. Although its not like the guy is gross either, he's popular and the only time he's done it was with me. And I'm DEF. not the only girl in my school to have done this. So I don't see what the big deal is? But its really making me angry that people are still talking about it, and judging me even the teachers.

What should I do??

viking · Apr 26, 2004, 02:08 PM

How old are you? Perhaps there are fewer people doing what you did than you believe? Or perhaps they are also being excluded for their behavior? Perhaps your boyfriend's friend is jealous? Perhaps she is not providing you with accurate information? It often is more improtant (in terms of others views or ourselves) how we carry ourselves and not necessarily how we act. What I mean is that if you carry yourself in a composed and classy manner then that is how people with view regardless of a few transgressions.

So hold your head up high and go bravely into that dark night and you will find that those around you will realize that they are missing out by excluding you.

Make sure that you use protection anytime you are having sex. Men and women will be dishonest about their sexual pasts in an effort to gain sexual access to you.

mrsjohnmayer24 · Apr 26, 2004, 07:14 PM

Its really important to remember how hard it is in high school... there is so much drama and although it seems like a big deal now, remember that today's news will be history long forgotten tomorrow. You may believe that because one person feels this way about you... everyone does... NOT TRUE. Because those who care know to love you and include you no matter what... one more thing, always know that it is their job to protect you too! Friends are there to look out for you, and if you have just one friend who is like this for you, you are more golden than you know. Good luck.

EVS · May 26, 2004, 01:57 AM

Hi there

Change your ways... The people you hang around with... the way you talk... dress... and even you appearance.

The things that have happened are done and cannot be erased, however pick yourself up dust yourself off and start all over again... That is Life.

Regards
Peanuts

Qween_diva · Jun 8, 2004, 09:10 PM

Why dose evryone know your bussines? They don't need to know what you do in your bedroom. That's why people are judging you They know too much. Next time you should keep it on the DL (down low ) And last but not leasest Don't worry what about what people think. They don't pay your bills. :)