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gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:19 AM

I'm 14 and my boyfriend of 3 and a half years is 17, we haven't don't anything beyond kissing and we plan to keep it that way until I'm at the age of concent. I love him a lot, and he loves me too. We have talked about marriage and children, and he asked me to marry him. I said yes, but were waiting until were out of school first.im a freshman and he's a sofomore, he got he got held back for 2 years, he can't stay out of trouble:P. since we have been together for this long, will it still be okay for us to be together when he turns 18? If not, what should I do? Because I never want to loose him.

Please tell me your opinion if its okay and what I should do. I would REALLY appreciate it. :):):)

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 11:24 AM

What do you like about someone who is two years behind everyone else because he cannot stay out of trouble?

Do your parents know about this?

Sex = NO Dating = Yes (legally speaking... by that I mean legally you cannot have sex, but you can date)

artlady · Apr 3, 2009, 11:25 AM

You started dating at 11?
Where is your mother?
He is too old for you.Kissing and all that stuff is going to lead to other things and I am sorry my dear but if you were my daughter I would forbid you to see this boy!
When he turns 18 he could go to jail for being with you.He will be considered an adult and you are a minor(not adult).
You will be jail bait.

gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:32 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

What do you like about someone who is two years behind everyone else because he cannot stay out of trouble?

Do your parents know about this?

Sex = NO Dating = Yes (legally speaking)

Well, he acts completely different aroun me than he does his friends, when he's around them he's just one of the guys, but he still doesn't ignore me. When its just me and him all of his attention goes toward me and he's the sweetist guy I've ever met. I remember for valentines day he got me a bunch of dasies(my favorite flower, I don't even remember telling him they were) a big teddy bear and a card that he made himself(hes not an artist;) but it was sweet). Later my best friend megan told me that he had asked her what my favorite flower was.:) I was so surprised.plus, the day after valentines day was our 3 year anniversary.. lol.. and he took me to the mall and let me drag him around for a few hours:)

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 11:33 AM

He has been dating you since you were 11?

Justwantfair · Apr 3, 2009, 11:34 AM

Well the only way he is going to make it to his goal with a 14 year old, is to be sweet and gentlemen like...

Guess that explains that.

gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:34 AM

But sometimes, its just wayyy confusing, my dad wes mad I was seeing him because of the age difference when he and his wife have a 16 year age difference.

gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:36 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

He has been dating you since you were 11?

We wernt dateing then, but that's when I started going to his house more and we started holding hands and all that sissy crap:Plol

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 11:36 AM

I'm sorry, but I am still stuck on the fact that this guy you are "dating" is almost 18 and is still a sophomore in high school... I am clueless as to how that happens. You have to TRY to screw up to make it that bad...

I think you should be VERY careful of your situation, and I must say, if I was your dad, you wouldn't like what I would have to say about this.

Justwantfair · Apr 3, 2009, 11:39 AM

Originally Posted by gurlneedinghelp

but sometimes, its just wayyy confusing, my dad wes mad i was seeing him because of the age difference when he and his wife have a 16 year age difference.

Your dad is a grown man. When you are both adults then your age difference won't be as relevant.

Right now you are too young to be dating and your parents can charge him with statutory rape after he turns 18, whether you want them to or not.

gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:39 AM

My dad has no clue were together right now, and if he did know, hed shoot me.(LITERALLY)he had tried before

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 11:40 AM

Your dad tried to shoot you?? Where are you from?

What warped town do you live in? 18 year old sophomores and father's trying to shoot their daughters... sounds like New Jersey to me (oops, sorry Rome!! ;) )

gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:42 AM

Originally Posted by Justwantfair

Your dad is a grown man. When you are both adults then your age difference won't be as relevant.

Right now you are too young to be dating and your parents can charge him with statutory rape after he turns 18, whether you want them to or not.

My mom likes my boyfriend, she has full custody, and I never go to my dads anymore.

My dad is 38, his wife is 22, and they started dateing when she was 16. So I didn't want to hear anything about this from him.

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 11:44 AM

Arkansas?

J_9 · Apr 3, 2009, 11:44 AM

It seems you have your mind made up. How else can we help you?

gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:44 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Your dad tried to shoot you??? Where are you from?

What warped town do you live in? 18 year old sophomores and father's trying to shoot their daughters...sounds like New Jersey to me (oops, sorry Rome!!! ;) )

No I'm from houston TX, but I live in Kentucky, my boyfriend is from Nevada, and my dad is from Tennessee, he's about as hick as you can get too.:P

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 11:46 AM

Ahh... Kentucky... that explains things a bit. I would imagine the laws on underage dating in Kentucky are a bit more relaxed than most other states.

All joking aside, I don't think we can help you any. You are going to do what you want, so all I can say is good luck!

gurlneedinghelp · Apr 3, 2009, 11:47 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Ahh...Kentucky...that explains things a bit. I would imagine the laws on underage dating in Kentucky are a bit more relaxed than most other states.

All joking aside, I don't think we can help you any. You are going to do what you want, so all I can say is good luck!

Haha.. okay:)

talaniman · Apr 3, 2009, 12:51 PM

Honestly if you were my daughter I wouldn't shoot you, but I would shove my shotgun so far up his butt, he would burp buckshot. I understand how your dad feels, and I'm in Texas, not Tennessee.

Glad to hear your not having sex, and plan to wait though. That's a good thing!

liz28 · Apr 3, 2009, 02:58 PM

Aside from his age, I don't see any good qualities in this guy. But let me recap to make sure I got it right.

He must not be that bright since he got left back twice or it might be due to his trouble ways. You said he is always getting into trouble especially when he's around his friends, so I guess he is a follower not a leader. And I am sure he knows right from wrong but choosing to do wrong instead of right. Oh, to top it off you love him and he promise you a white house with a picket fence. Oneday, your going wake up and since your not getting proper guidance from your family this situation is even sadder. But this guy isn't right for you and you think it's love but its not. I wonder how much your going love him when you only get to see him once a week.