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Averagejill · Jul 3, 2012, 03:51 AM

Hi!

I have a close friend or someone I can rely on, she's like my guidance counselor. The problem is, is that she's too BOSSY or more of a little MS. PERFECT person and sometimes she gets mad for no reason and blames me. If she did a bad thing to me, it would end up me saying sorry, instead of her! She's a good friend and she knows how to choose between right and wrong but sometimes she tends to do the wrong thing and makes it look right... And she doesn't accept it that she's wrong..

How could I deal with her without letting her know?

joypulv · Jul 3, 2012, 05:22 AM

You deal with friends by letting them know, plain and simple.
Friends don't hide this sort of thing from each other.
If you are scared of her because she is bossy, she's not much of a friend. And it doesn't even sound like you like her. What's keeping you together as friends? Her 'guidance?' Sounds like she needs to boss you around more than you need guidance. Try standing up to her for a change, and telling her that you have your own opinions, your own mind, your own likes and dislikes and theories.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 3, 2012, 07:00 AM

Burying your head in the sand and pretending does not help anything. How will she know to change if no one tells her there is a problem?
If you can girl up and say what's bothering you, you will always have problems with people

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Homegirl 50 · Jul 3, 2012, 07:47 AM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

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Averagejill · Jul 4, 2012, 03:14 AM

Originally Posted by joypulv

You deal with friends by letting them know, plain and simple.
Friends don't hide this sort of thing from each other.
If you are scared of her because she is bossy, she's not much of a friend. And it doesn't even sound like you like her. What's keeping you together as friends? Her 'guidance?' Sounds like she needs to boss you around more than you need guidance. Try standing up to her for a change, and telling her that you have your own opinions, your own mind, your own likes and dislikes and theories.

Thanks for your opinion.. I think I should just face the fact she ain't a friend after all.

Averagejill · Jul 4, 2012, 03:20 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Burying your head in the sand and pretending does not help anything. How will she know to change if no one tells her there is a problem?
If you can girl up and say what's bothering you, you will always have problems with people

Well.. I don't like hurting other peoples' feelings. I would usually say the problem to my real friends and I guess she ain't one of my real friends..

JudyKayTee · Jul 4, 2012, 05:49 AM

Originally Posted by Averagejill

Well.. I don't like hurting other peoples' feelings. I would usually say the problem to my real friends and I guess she ain't one of my real friends..

You're right - she ain't.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 4, 2012, 06:03 AM

You have to stand up for what is right, that is what defines you as a person. And a person who tries to justify wrong, is not much of a "counselor" and one who you can not talk to opening, is not much of a friend.