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Buttercup88 · Jan 14, 2010, 05:01 PM

A month after I turned 15 I got pregnant. My mom knows I'm sexually active but she never found out I got pregnant. Should I tell her? Plus there is a possibility I migh be expecting... Any helpful ideas? I know I'm irresponsible and I won't be a suitable parent because I don't have a job and I'm a sophomore. Tell me something I don't know. Please!

FadedMaster · Jan 14, 2010, 05:59 PM

You should tell your mother. And am I to understand correctly that you are possibly pregnant again? You need to stop having sex if you are not ready to be a parent. If you don't have the self control to do so you need to seek help and get yourself on birth control.

Talk to your mother. It'll only upset her if she finds out about all this through other channels (rumours, or simply this possible second pregnancy you've eluded to).

letmetellu · Jan 14, 2010, 06:35 PM

How do you feel about the baby that you aborted. If you have no bad feelings then you could just get another abortion and just not tell your mother anything.

That is not what I recommend I would rather for you to tell your mother everything, and then carry your baby to term and in the meantime find some family that is realying wanting to adopt a baby. Get to know them and decide if you like them enough to give them your baby or not and just keep looking till you find a couple that suits you. I am sure that some arrangements could be made for them to pay your expensives.

Now after the baby is born, or if you abort this baby, find yourself a Doctor and get on some kind of birth control. And after this baby please don't bring another baby into this world that you don't want, it is so not fair to the baby.

Buttercup88 · Jan 14, 2010, 07:47 PM

I didn't get an abortion, I planned on keeping it. He died on his own. I didn't want him to. My mom refuses to put me on birth control she just expects me not to have sex. And honestly that's harder then it should be. I want to keep this baby if I am but I know it's selfish, abortion isn't an option. I just don't know what to do. I currently got kicked out by my moms boyfriend and am living with my grandparents. By the way both babies are the same guys. I've only been with him.

Buttercup88 · Jan 14, 2010, 07:47 PM

I didn't get an abortion, I planned on keeping it. He died on his own. I didn't want him to. My mom refuses to put me on birth control she just expects me not to have sex. And honestly that's harder then it should be. I want to keep this baby if I am but I know it's selfish, abortion isn't an option. I just don't know what to do. I currently got kicked out by my moms boyfriend and am living with my grandparents. By the way both babies are the same guys. I've only been with him.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 14, 2010, 09:11 PM

Talk to your mom, you said, "she knows I am sexualy active, but then said she expects you not to.

She can not have it both way, so are you using any birth control at all, at least a condom

Buttercup88 · Jan 14, 2010, 09:21 PM

She's not talking to me. She took her boyfriends side. We have condoms. Doesn't mean they get used all the time. Right now I'm fighting with not just my parents but also my boyfriend / baby daddy so I'm kind of scared.

FadedMaster · Jan 14, 2010, 09:25 PM

Originally Posted by Buttercup88

She's not talking to me. She took her boyfriends side. We have condoms. Doesn't mean they get used all the time. Right now I'm fighting with not just my parents but also my boyfriend / baby daddy so I'm kinda scared.

Use them all the time. It's that simple. Don't be an idiot. You're not ready to have a kid. Either stop having sex or use birth control. Seriously. You're not only screwing up your life, but the life of your unborn child. This is unhealthy and just plain stupid.

If you are having problems with self-control you need to seek out help. Talk to councilors. Express to them that you don't have enough self control to use condoms or stop having sex. This is a very serious issue.

J_9 · Jan 14, 2010, 09:32 PM

Originally Posted by Buttercup88

She's not talking to me. She took her boyfriends side. We have condoms. Doesn't mean they get used all the time. Right now I'm fighting with not just my parents but also my boyfriend / baby daddy so I'm kinda scared.

You have every right to be scared. Do you even have a clue what being pregnant at your age can do to you not to mention the baby?

Look, just close your legs. It's actually pretty simple. You are obviously already a problem child... how in the world do you think you can raise a baby?

Fr_Chuck · Jan 14, 2010, 09:35 PM

And being pregnant is only a small fear from what else you can get because of not using a condom.

You WANT to be pregnant, you make excuses for not doing anything to stop it,

Keeping your pants on, if you will not use birth control, You know I can't feel sorry for you, I tried, but you are rude, not responsible, not carring for anything but your short term fun, and then crying when the bad that has to happen does

Buttercup88 · Jan 15, 2010, 09:37 AM

I'm not a problem child, I don't sluff, don't drink or do drugs, I Don't go out partying. I get good ggrades. I got kicked out because he found out I'm not a virgin, I'm fighting with my dad because he's an abusive alcoholic and my mom because she sat there and just watch him kick me out and call me all those obscene words. Yes I have issues. I'm not crying because it came to another baby. I'm upset because everything else around me is falling apart. But I'd like to thank you for your advice, I'm not asking you to feel sorry for me, I just wanted some helpful words.

Buttercup88 · Jan 15, 2010, 09:37 AM

I'm not a problem child, I don't sluff, don't drink or do drugs, I Don't go out partying. I get good ggrades. I got kicked out because he found out I'm not a virgin, I'm fighting with my dad because he's an abusive alcoholic and my mom because she sat there and just watch him kick me out and call me all those obscene words. Yes I have issues. I'm not crying because it came to another baby. I'm upset because everything else around me is falling apart. But I'd like to thank you for your advice, I'm not asking you to feel sorry for me, I just wanted some helpful words.

FadedMaster · Jan 15, 2010, 10:45 AM

I'm sorry your home life isn't supportive. But you are only asking to make things worse if you are going to engage in sexual intercourse when you admittedly know it is not a good choice. Especially since you are choosing to not use condoms that you admitted are available. To me... that does make you a problem child.

The first and foremost thing you need to do is stop having sex. This is just going to cause more drama for you.

Next, you need to do something about your father if he is indeed abusing you. Contact the police and/or child services. They need to know what is going on.

Going out and having sex and getting pregnant twice is no answer to your problems.