A woman should NEVER have sex just because she loves someone. Nobody, male or female, should have sex unless they are financially, physically and emotionally prepared to have a child - AND... in making that decision, they should consider that they COULD have twins (or more) with physical and/or emotional disabilities.
Here are some facts that you should consider... NO birth control is 100% effective other than abstinence. People who are under 25 that have children have a higher rate of having a baby with medical problems and learning disabilities. Having a teenaged pregnancy does not just have an effect upon you until the child leaves home, but carries that effect into your child, your parents, your siblings, your grandparents, your partner's family, and, in time, your child's children and grandchildren. Children born to parents who are under 25 are more than 70% more likely to live in poverty.
Now, for another side of it... this 17 year old boy COULD be arrested (at least in North America) for having a relationship with you. If you love each other, you should both allow each other to move on to other things/people until you are legally out of danger. For both of you, seeing other people will prepare you for a more serious relationship and life in general. At 12, 13 or even 14, 15 or 16 you are too young to devote your life to one guy. You have too much to experience first.
I do NOT doubt that you love him. I just think a more mature love can develop if you handle this appropriately. Oh, by the way... you will find people under the age of 25 who will disagree with all of some of what I say. That is because they haven't had to experience the negative side of it yet. I am 53 years old. I was married and had two children before I was 18. I know what I am talking about from first hand experience and from years of working with kids your age. I hope you think long and hard about this and don't make a decision that will probably destroy your life, as well as the lives of others.
Love, Didi
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