I'm a 14 year old girl, and I have a friend who is the same age and we've been friends from when we where 6, and we're very close... even our parents are friends. So we want to go out with friends and they plan behind our backs so that they both wn't let us go,. we want to make another ear piercing and the story repeats itself and it gets us angry! Sometimes I would want to escape from the house or something's but I can't as I have nowhere to live and I don't think it is the best thing to do. Our other friends all go to pubs late in the evenings, and they all hang out with other guys and go out wherever they want but us-we can't, it's like we don't have something in common with these friends! Wel it drives me crazy remembering how I can't be like others, our moms' problem is that they are protecting us too much! They think that if they let us stay out we will get abused, and also when they let us go out they will be wathcing us from their cars:mad: and they are always suspecting that we're dating some guy! Which we aren't.. but so what if we had to date guys we are not going to get pragnent like they are thinking!! Oh, I'm not being much polite but it's gets me mad and very sad when I see that I'm this defferent,

Thanks a lot for waisting some of your time, I really appreciate for any kind of help

You know those girls that go out drinking at 14/15? Well sometimes I meet them in the ladies toilets crying about how they hate their life and that they go out and get wasted behind their parents backs every weekend. I never know what to say to them except- well don't. I don't know why they do that because I never did.

I stayed at home like you do and got really good at things like playing the guitar, studying and painting. I would hang out with my friend's houses drinking 0.5% shandy and eating sugar laces. We knew we weren't cool and that the a lot of other girls in the school had 30 year old boyfriends, smoked pot and drank like fish, well that's what they told me anyway.

Then I went to uni and I meet more people who did the same things and most of them don't remember it fondly.

Yeah sometimes parents seem like controlling tubes but I'm so glad my teenage years were how they were. OK so I went a bit wild when I left, but I don't regret that either, I'm glad I waited until I was big enough and ugly enough to get out of the inevitable scrapes.

If you want more freedom try to show your parents you are capable of being sensible. You have to get them to release the apron strings slowly, one trip to the shops alone at a time. It won't be long until you too can spend nights getting broke and bored in pubs.

Good luck and hang onto your friend!

Thanks for you advice, I appreciate a lot