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thatgirl · Sep 7, 2006, 11:48 AM

Hi!
I'm a senior in high school and there is a boy that I have known since freshman year. We flirted with each other a lot during freshman year but none of us actually came out and said that we liked each other. I also saw him flirting with other girls so I don't know if he just likes to flirt or he actually liked me. Sophomore year and junior year he acted diferently because he had a girlfriend. We never really hung out or anything but it felt like he didn't want to be my friend anymore. Now it's senior year and we talk on the phone a lot. We have actually became really close to each other. BUT he still has a girlfriend. They have been going out for about 3 years. He talks about her a lot. But he also flirts with me a lot. I have always liked him (since freshman year!) I think I might even love him. I have tried to cut him out of my life. I tried no returning his calls, avoiding him in school, etc. it never works because he always calls me and wants to talk to me. He is such a nice guy. Is he actually flirting with me or is he just a nice guy?I don't know what to do. Should I continue to flirt with him knowing that he won't cheat on his girlfriend or should I cut him out of my life and move on to another guy?

Melinda · Sep 7, 2006, 12:41 PM

Come right out and ask him, open up the communication lines... only one way to know the truth...

Krs · Sep 12, 2006, 04:56 AM

I would tell him exactly how you feel about him, and tell him that you feel uncomfortable and you don't know where you stand with him especially under the circumstances (his girlfriend)

AKaeTrue · Sep 13, 2006, 12:58 AM

I believe girls can have friends that are guys and guys can have friends that are girls - without there being any other intentions.
He might have been in need of a friend and found that friend in you. He may already have the feeling that you like him for more than just a friend, in fact, it makes it easier for him to approach and befriend you because he knows he will not be rejected.
You are at the age where lust and infatuation go head to toe with reality. Guys want what they feel/think they can't have (most of them anyway, but not all). You could have sparked his interest when you were trying to avoid him.
For now, I'd just be his friend, especially since he's talking to you behind his girlfriends back. I'm sure if she knew, she wouldn't be saying that he's such a nice guy. It doesn't make him a bad guy, but it doesn't make him 100 % honest either. Is that really what you want?
What kind of flirting is it? What is he doing/saying? Knowing this would really help to determine if it's innocent and friendly or if he means something more by it.
Get back to us, let us know...

thatgirl · Sep 13, 2006, 11:51 AM

Thank you all for the advice.
I'm going to come right out and ask him.
I'll get back to you and tell you what happened...

Krs · Sep 14, 2006, 12:37 AM

Good Luck and keep us posted :)

aggie04 · Sep 14, 2006, 03:21 AM

Keep away from him.. his got a girlfriend gal! What are you thinking? Man DO NOT even go there.. dangerous territory..
Maybe you could just be friends with him, get to know him a little bit so that if they break up, not only will you be his new girlfriend but best friend 2 :D

lilian79 · Oct 13, 2006, 11:09 AM

I think I agree with the 1st person, you know you have to ask him and be honest with you, and he has a girl too... what are the chances that he is going to brake up with her to be with you... men are like that, they like the attention too, and he knows you like him that's why he knows that he can call you and you will always be there... I think you are setting yourself up... And yes you might loose him,, but you will free your heart.. and be able to be with someone else who will feel the same way you do... Its hard ignoring,, but with my experience instead of excepting the situation get mad about it, and that way you have an excuse not to talk to him and he will slowly fade away just be strong. GOOD LUCK

thatgirl · Oct 13, 2006, 02:15 PM

Its just so hard to ignore him because he is always calling me and stuff. He says he wants to be my friend. Another problem I have with him is that he ignores me when his girlfriend is around(his girlfriend and I are not friends). He acts like I don't exists. I think I'm going to take your advice and ignore him

talaniman · Oct 14, 2006, 05:37 AM

Originally Posted by thatgirl

its just so hard to ignore him because he is always calling me and stuff. he says he wants to be my friend. another problem i have with him is that he ignores me when his girlfriend is around(his gf and i are not friends). he acts like i dont exists. i think im going to take ur advice and ignore him

You need to tell him to stop calling so much since he does have a girl friend. And leave him alone to prevent a whole bunch of drama you don't need, even if all he is doing is being friendly. He hasn't introduced you to his g/f as his friend has he? Nuff said.