I hate life... my 7 year old little brother has a tumor in his brain stem and will probably die... my 12 year old little brother is abused by my real mom... and he's a jerk to me! My dad is always mad... he has anger management issues... if he gets mad he will hit me.. my step mom is only 15 years older than me! And she's a royal!! My 15 year old sister tries to control everything I do! She's like a MAJOR christian... and if I cuss she gets PISSED! And my little 10 year old sister pretty much runs my life... I have to do what she says because ill get in trouble for saying anything mean to her... she is my step moms child! And my other little sister who is 4 is the biggest brat you will ever meet in your life! And my 2 best friends Erinn and Christie are the only people I trust... at times I don't even trust Christie... shes a backstabber and she likes to bail on me and erinn! Me and erinn are planning to run away when we turn 17 and go live in North Carolina where she used to live... we live in Texas right now... and there are like 600 people in my town.. and all the guys are jerks! Everyone of them is a jerk... there are NO nice guys in my class.. there were 4 michael keena tj and justin... my best guy friends but they all moved... my life is just not going to good... and at times I just want to die! The only thing that makes me want to live is knowing that erinn will always be there for me! She is my bestest friend ever... and she might be moving... im really sad about that! I mean who am I going to get drunk with if she moves!? Anyway... I just really hate my life... and I need someone to talk to... preferably someone my age!!





Ps. I REALLY want a boyfriend but all the guys are jerks to me! What do I do about that??

Sweetie sounds to me like you've got anger issues. First you need to realize that life throws some unfair curve balls that you just got to deal with... second I think you need to start going to church with your sister, form a support group, I tell you what I had a lot of anger and pain but I tell you the moment I asked Jesus to help me he worked everything out I tell you sister there's power in prayer!

Ever since my uncle died... I won't set foot in a church...

Did the church kill him?

No but... there is 1 church in my town... and the last time I saw my uncle (who pretty much raised me when my parents weren't around) was when he was laying in a coffin in that church and every time I go in there I break down crying... and I want to kill myself!!

Hunny, I know it's hard losing someone your close to trust me I've been there lost plenty of people but it was just their time to go and he is in a much better place I know it's hard to imagine but he is. God will heal any pain and anger you have and given the chance he will show you what your calling is and deliver you from the hell your living through I promise. You just need to get a grip there is much more in this life then you and your struggles if you can't get through this now then how are you going to survive when things get worse?

I don't even know if there is a god... if there was a guy who controlled everything... and he loves us SOOO much... why would he make7 year old little boy whose never done anything wrong in his life get cancer... why would he do that? Why would ANYONE do that!
Why would he make my life a living hell! Why would he let my mom be a stripper and a hooker and let her get 4 abortions! I'm lucky my dad wouldn't let her have an abortion with me! Why would he let a 12 year old little boy be beat and thrown up against a wall and through a window because he spilled a glass of water!? There is no god!! People need to stop saying there is!! There is no proof that there is a god!!

Without suffering there could be no compassion and without saddness there would be no happiness... The devil puts obsticals in our way the only way they can be removed is by God... Trust me just try and see you'll know there's a god... I went to a revival a few weeks ago in Lakeland FL you can watch it every night on GODTV while I was there I saw a boy who had never seen before.. he had been bllind since birth, just a defect he went to this service and the spirit was there, he was healed and saw for the first time that night, I saw a man who had melanomia which is the worst skin cancer people usually die from it... he had black spots all over his skin... the whole church laid hands on him and prayed for healing and I'm telling you I saw this the black cancer fell off right there in the middle of service and he was healed!! There's POWER IN PRAYER!! If there's no God how do explain these things God wants a part in your life he wants to make your life better.

OMG this girl needs a lot more than some preaching about going to church. I do believe in God, and believe that she should go to church as well, but this is not going to solve what is going on in her life right now.

First of all, you should not be getting drunk at age 14. I know this girl is your "bestest" friend in the whole world, but if you two were true friends to each other, you wouldn't be drinking alcohol with each other. You are 14, unfortunately, friends in life come and go. Sometimes you stay in touch, sometimes you don't. That's life. Don't base the meaning of your life according to where your best friend is. It is YOUR life, not your and hers together.

You need counseling. Period. Talk to a school counselor-an ADULT, someone in your family-AN ADULT or someone who can actually help you to weigh out your options. Running away, and drinking alcohol. You are 14-At age 17 you most likely will have gone through some major changes/events in your life-different than what you are going through now.

No doubt you are going through some hard times, but if you talk to someone, not only can you save yourself, but you can save the life of your sibling(s) who is being abused. That alone is something that can make you feel good about yourself, your situation, and to help you feel as if you have made a difference.

Start from there, stay in counseling, keep yourself strong. You are at a hard age in life-and are living a hard life as well, and things will be/seem unfair -but if you do this, you will succeed, you WILL make it, and you will overall be the better person that right now you think you could never be.

HAHA you've obiously never seen what God can do... He's better than any counseling... He's the answer to all of our problems

God doesn't just reach down and cure us, or solve our problems.

He gave us a brain and free will so that we could, through him if we are so inclined, make our own decisions, solve our own problems, and seek help when we need it.

She needs counseling, and if she wants to ask God to help her with that, OK.

I apologize in advance if I am out of line, but I think YOU need counseling.

This girl has a lot of issues that she needs assisted with and all you can do is tell her to pray and all her problems will be solved. Not that your advice is wrong or bad, it is quite good in fact, but it is inaccurate in my opinion as right now, as she does not even know if she believes in God.

She's asking help for her problems, not her religion.

I do not believe in religion that is what drives people away from God... He created us and trust me he can solve any problem. There is nothing he can't do he is a BIG God. If he can create this whole complex world and everything worked out great then he can do anything.

Anyway... I just really hate my life... and I need someone to talk to... preferably someone my age!!


I think that right away you should call this number: 1-800-448-3000
Boys Town National Hotline

(Not Just for boys)

Teen & Parent Crisis Hotline - Suicide, Depression, School & Abuse Help

The Boys Town National Hotline is a 24-hour crisis, resource and referral line. Trained counselors can respond to your questions every day of the week, 365 days a year. We can help teens and parents with suicide prevention, depression, school issues, parenting troubles, runaways, relationship problems, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, chemical dependency, anger and much more.

Any problem anytime... the Boys Town National Hotline is here to help. In 2007, more than 500,000 children and families were helped through the Boys Town National Hotline, including more than 38,000 youth who made calls where hotline staff intervened to save the caller’s life or provide therapeutic counseling. Over the past decade, more than 7 million callers have found help at the end of the line.


These people can help you

Shirley

I think I can help you find other teens to talk to about your problems.


TEENS WITH PROBLEMS: Talk to a Teen Help Representative Now

Please Call the Toll Free Phone Number Below

Ask for
Lisa Irvin at Help My Teen

When asked for a Contact Code, please give this number:

Contact Code: 28LCOL

Phone Number: 1-800-251-5710

And mention the
Teens With Problems Website


There is also a girl named Stacey that is 16 and has a site on Yahoo sites that I think you might like to visit.

The web address is: Teens-Talk : Teens-Talk

Here is what she says on her site:
Description

Hey my name is Stacy and I am 16 years old. I wanted to start a group where teens can come and talk about their problems, the system, God, whatever you want. You don't even have to talk about anything if you don't want too.
You can just join and maybe you will see something you like and I hope it might help you

You asked for other teens to talk to... hopefully this will help.

Shirley

First you need to see what is wrong in your own life, since you can not change what others do or say. Fourteen year olds first don't get drunk and go out drinking, and often our outlook of what other people seem ( like jerks) change when we change our outlook and how we live our own lifes.

If a parent is physcially abusing you, report them, period, no second thoughs about that.

In the one defense, yes we need to seek out counseling, seek out help for abuse, but then God can reach down and change our lifes at one swoop, does not happen often but does happen at times.

I called CPS on my mom but they just went and talked to her... and then they left and she like went crazy on my brother... not ever calling them again!

You are correct CPS is a joke!

If you can't talk to anyone else talk to your counselor at school. The school has a lot more pull than you would think and the counselor is there to help you.

You can depend on only one person in life... yourself! If you want it to be different, you must make it happen.

Find a job even if it is delivering papers or mowing lawns. Join a boys and girls club or similar event at a Rec center. Visit the elderly in a nursing home. Sit in a park and draw pictures. What ever interests you, find something and become involved in it. (no drinking is not getting involved). Cleaning up trash is getting involved.

You will find when you are involved in an interest, activity or community you find no time to dwell on things that you cannot change. You cannot change your environment, you cannot change your mother, but you can change yourself.

It sounds like you don't like yourself or anyone else right now. Become the person you want others to be and you will slowly see your life change around you.

Find a different church to go to if that one has bad memories. Try volunteering or going to a non denominational church like the Salvation Army. You can become involved in activities through the new church and meet other young people your age... boys go to church!

Become a mentor for your brother.. do you want him to feel like you do? He needs you to be strong for him and a role model. Believe me he will copy your actions and follow in whatever footsteps you are walking.

If things get bad, take your brother to the park, go to the library for a little while until the situation is defused. Leave, take your brother and just go for a long walk. I always found that worked quite well. If you are not there you cannot be in an abusive situation. Just disappear when the situation is ugly and when you return it is not so bad. You won't be young forever.

Start really studying hard at school and perhaps you can get a scholarship to college and than you will pretty much be on your own. If that doesn't work as soon as you are 17 you can get a job and get your own place and maybe attend some type of technical school or training so you will be on your own.

It is called growing up and becoming a responsible adult. Life isn't a given to anyone. If you want life to be better than it depends on one person... YOU... to make it happen.

Shirley

Hey there, you have your 14 year life full of a lot of challenges. I agree, you need to find an adult you can trust, sounds like your whole family is having a hard time.
But, you are the one asking for help, I want you to look up in your phone book and find a woman's group that deals with domestic violence. They don't know you and they will know where to find the right person for you to talk to, just tell them that you need help.
If you feel that you are afraid of sharing some of this information, usually there is a crisis line, and you can call annomiously and spill your guts, they should have the resourses to help you find the right person to talk to, don't be scared, you can even figure out how to block your number if you are concerned about someone stepping in that you don't want, but you are doing the right thing, reaching out, don't give up. Sometimes life just sucks and we all need someone to guide us, all of us need help from time to time.
Be careful, but call someone. If you can't find the phone number, tell me what city you are in and I will find one for you. Be strong, I can tell you are already a strong young woman, and you need someone to talk to.
Sending you a hug,
Michele

I'm not 14 but I'm a youth pastor at my church and I'm around 14 year olds all the time. Many of them have been abused and hurt by their parents and/or siblings. It's important first to realize that you're not responsible. You can't help the family you were born in. You can't fix your family. What you can do is change who you are. You make some good points about why there isn't a God but the reason many of the bad things in happen in life is because God gave us free will. Now you can choose to just forget about God and do things your own way or you can try out this God thing. It helps. I tell my girls at Church all the time that it takes more than just asking God for help... you have to meet him half way.