Oh, honeybunny... I am a mother a 13 year old boy and let me tell you, if he does like you, chances are good that he's not going to say or do anything about it. Now sugar, I don't know if you want advice from other 13 year olds or if you are OK with just anyone answering your question, but let me tell you what goes on on the other side of things. My son, who will be 14 by the end of the year is head over heels for a girl in one of his classes. He even arranged his schedule to have the same lunch period as her!! Now, we have sat him down, his father and I, and explained to him that dating at this age is NOT to be taken seriously. 13/14/15 is just too young to understand the responsibility each person has in a real relationship. We feel that 16 is a good age to start testing the waters when it comes to dating (provided the kiddo has a reasonably good head on their shoulders)- this is something for you to think about. Ok, now back to my boy. He's crazy for this girl! Comes home sayin' this girl is THE ONE: He's so depressed when she misses school. Now, this girl has decided to start sitting at his table during lunch and at first he was so excited, but after the first week he started to get really sick of her. When we talked to him about it, he said that while he was really excited to be near her, he didn't feel like he could talk to her for a couple of reasons. First, he thought if he said or did anything to acknowledge her, she'd figure out how much he liked her and then he wouldn't know what to do about that, which really freaked him out. Second, she didn't seem to be into the same things as him (as in, she never had anything to say about his likes nor asked him about his interests). The other reason he got sick of her, he said, is that he could never be sure of who was going to be at his table every day. He said she seemed to change personalities every time he saw her and he was really hoping to just get to know her as she was, not who she thought she should be.
Now, Sugar, I have gone through this whole thing to point out a few key things for you. One, if you don't know who you are, he's not going to either. Boys are slow in the love department, but honey, they ain't stupid.
Second, if you're "trying things" to find something that will "work", whatever "works" will be a lie. If you are comfortable with yourself, you'll be comfortable talking to him, and then you can start things out really getting to know each other, rather than tricking him into noticing you.
Third, he's just as timid as you. If he likes you, you can bet he's just as nervous and self conscious as you are. If he doesn't like you, well, that's a peach to pit in a later post.
Good luck, honey, and have some fun. Life isn't meant to be taken so seriously, at any age :)
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