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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:05 PM
    How would a 16 year old react if a girl says she is 13 when she is relly 11
    How wuld a 16 year old react if a girl lies about her age and says she's 13 when she's relly 11 years old well this question is from my friend she says she's relly in love wit a 16 year old guy but he duznt know she is relly 11 years old and she's relly scared of da reactiond of the guy guy and she is also wundering when is the right time 2 tell him the truth about her age... so what do you people advice my friend??
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:11 PM

    duznt = doesn't
    this = this
    relly = really

    Advise your friend that he is too old for her and that very few 16 year old boys like 11 year old girls.
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:17 PM

    Well the age difference doesn't really metter if there's true love
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:19 PM

    Yes, the age difference does matter at 11 and 16... it's called jailbait!

    And most 16 year olds will not fall in love with an 11 year old because all of their friends will make fun of them and someone could turn him in to the police.
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:23 PM

    16 year old boys are too old for 13 year old girls.

    She is 11...

    Tell her if she continues this relationship then he boyfriend could get in a lot of trouble for this. What 11 year old knows what love is?
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:27 PM

    Well yeah I guess your right BTU she needs 2 1:make sure he really loves her and 2:that he doesn't just want sex
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:33 PM

    Like everyone else has already said so perfectly this is a dangerous situation.

    Your friend needs to tell the guy the truth about her age and end things.

    Like Aimee stated the 11 year old doesn't even know what love it when it comes to the situation. If she even cares about this person a friendship level she would be honest and spare them from getting into legal troubles on so many levels.

    Neither party in this situation is mature or old enough for what is going on. A 16 year old shouldn't even be interested in someone 13, let alone 11!

    What ever happened to enjoying your childhood? Once you hit 18 those days of that freedom is over and you're smacked hard into the real world. Don't hurry into that before you need to. It's not fun.

    She needs to be honest with this kid, and then go back to enjoying her childhood because at 11 that's what she is a child. And that's not being mean it's just the facts. She has all the time when she's older to find someone and fall in love but not right now.

    She has a good friend in you since you're looking for advice on this, so please persuade her to tell this 16 year old her real age and then support her as a friend for how that goes no matter the outcome.
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:33 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by aimee_tt View Post
    16 year old boys are too old for 13 year old girls.

    She is 11...

    Tell her if she continues this relationship then he boyfriend could get in alot of trouble for this. What 11 year old knows what love is?
    Well but she says her friend still hasn't told him her real age but I think she has 2 tell him the truth as soon as posible
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:37 PM

    11 year old girls love puppies and butterflies, they are still in elementary school.

    16 year old boys love cars and 18 year old girls, they are in high school.

    16 year olds babysit 11 year olds, not fall in love with them.
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    Aug 12, 2010, 07:40 PM

    Think of it this way. If they stay together he will evenutally want more than kissing and hugging... Does your friend want to be a pregnant 12 year old? With the father in jail for rape?

    Doesn't sound nice does it? Tell her to say to him, we have to break up because I haven't been honest with you. Im really 11. Sorry I lied.

    Then she need to wait till she is 16 before she gets another boy friend
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    Aug 13, 2010, 08:00 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by icygurl View Post
    well the age difference doesn't really metter if there's true love

    Appears to be posting in two names - and answering her own posts.
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    Aug 13, 2010, 08:59 AM
    Your question is, "how would a 16 year old react if a girl says she is 13 when she is relly 11", and there is only one answer to that.

    His reaction would probably be the same, and he likely could care less if you are 9 years old instead of 11.

    A sixteen year old pursuing an 11, OR 13 year old, is totally inappropriate.

    There are laws against this sort of thing, because 11 year olds need to be protected from themselves. You are in NO WAY mature enough to see that you are in a very dangerous position- the age difference physically, developmentally, and emotionally.

    Even if you are 'mature for your age', your question proves otherwise. If you are that smart, you wouldn't be asking the question in the first place.

    I'm not sure why you are posting under two different names, the answers will be the same anyway- another sign of immaturity.
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    Aug 13, 2010, 09:07 AM

    First, why the name change?

    Second, whoever told you that age doesn't matter was just trying to justifying a questionable relationship. The fact is that age does matter. It matters less and less as both parties get older, but it DOES matter. And when one is 11 and shouldn't even be concerned with boys and the boy is 16 and can get in trouble for a relationship with such a young girl then it very much matters.

    Finally, this site does not permit using chat speak. Please type in full words and sentences.
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    Aug 13, 2010, 09:09 AM

    I think that you are WAY TOO old to be dating her! If she's eleven, she's not even old enough to have a boy friend, let alone a 16 year old! Leave her alone, and find someone you age.
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    Aug 13, 2010, 09:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Isafjordur View Post
    I think that you are WAY TOO old to be dating her! If she's eleven, she's not even old enough to have a boy friend, let alone a 16 year old! Leave her alone, and find someone you age.

    Did you read the question? In theory this is being posted by a friend of the 11-year old female, not the male himself.

    I think it's the 11 year old who is posting (and who apparently is not doing well in English class).
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    Aug 13, 2010, 09:19 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Isafjordur View Post
    I think that you are WAY TOO old to be dating her! If she's eleven, she's not even old enough to have a boy friend, let alone a 16 year old! Leave her alone, and find someone you age.
    Yes, it really helps if you read the postings carefully before responding and looking foolish.
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    Aug 13, 2010, 09:47 AM

    Any relationship built on a lie is not going to work. If your friend loves this boy who is 16 then she needs to be honest with him. He is in danger of being accused of a crime because she is being dishonest with him.
    People should choose to be together because of the truth, not lies.
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    Aug 13, 2010, 10:16 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Shaydie View Post
    Any relationship built on a lie is not going to work. If your friend loves this boy who is 16 then she needs to be honest with him. He is in danger of being accused of a crime because she is being dishonest with him.
    People should choose to be together because of the truth, not lies.
    So you think it would be OK for a 16 yr old boy to have a relationship with an 11 yr old girl as long as they both know the truth about her age? Obviously you don't have an 11 yr old daughter.
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    Aug 14, 2010, 11:41 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by aimee_tt View Post
    Think of it this way. If they stay together he will evenutally want more than kissing and hugging... Does your friend want to be a pregnant 12 year old? With the father in jail for rape?

    Doesnt sound nice does it? Tell her to say to him, we have to break up because i havent been honest with you. Im really 11. Sorry i lied.

    Then she need to wait till she is 16 before she gets another boy friend
    Yeah I greee with you she should tell her friend to do that because most guys this days are just thinking about one thing and that thing is call sex

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