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    Asked May 29, 2010, 09:21 AM 11 Answers
    Okay, so I'm going to high school next year, and I've tried everything in the world to lose this weight. Now I'm not like like a whale big but I'm heavy. And I like this guy and I highly doubt he likes me. What do I do? /:

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    Wondergirl Posts: 37,502, Reputation: 5407
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    May 29, 2010, 09:39 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by sarebear1345 View Post
    okay, so im going to high school next year, and ive tryed everything in the world to lose this weight. now im not like like a whale big but im heavy. and i like this guy and i highly doubt he likes me. what do i do? /:
    Concentrate on how you come across to people. Are you a good listener? Do you smile and act interesting in others? Are you clean, wear clean clothes, smell nice but not overwhelmingly perfume-y? Do you keep your hair neat and clean in an attractive style and cut? Are your teeth in good shape and your breath fresh? Do you wear clothes that fit you nicely without being too tight or revealing? (I have a friend who wears scoop neck tops. Every time she bends over, you can see all the way to Ireland.)

    Meanwhile, cut back on sugary snacks and drinks. Drink lots of ice water. Eat raw veggies for snacks. When you go shopping or to the mall, park at the back of the lot and walk, walk, walk. Take a yoga class to learn yoga so you can do at least six postures every day, twice a day, morning and evening.

    Remember: How you are inside and how you project yourself says everything about you -- "she's cool" or "ewww, she's icky."
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    CallofDutyQueen100 Posts: 80, Reputation: 4
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    Jul 7, 2010, 10:30 AM
    Hey. I've been through the same thing except in like 6th and 7th grade (im going into 8th) Im not fat either but I'm heavy set. I have big bones so I look pudgey when I'm not. But the way I got guys to like me is just being myself and not caring what people thought about me. I don't have a boyfriend but I know for a fact that some guys at my school like me. I hope I helped in some way. Bottom line: who cares if your skinny or fat? White or black? Does it matter? Just be yourself and eventually the right guy will come along.
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    cubbycake24 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 13, 2010, 11:26 PM

    I completely understand what your going threw except I'm 18 I just got on track lossing weight on this doctor recommended diet called herbalife... look into it if you want but anyway about the boy problem... u can't show that your insecure when I was in 8th grade I was still overweight not huge but enoght for me to not be confident at all there was this extreamly fine guy who all the girls wanted and I was one of them.. but the thing I did different was acted like I didn't like hom and like I just wanted to be friends it wrked and he feel in love with my personality... just stay true to yourself put up a little bit of a front but your personality and who you are is wats going to win the guy you like over... and if he doesn't give you the time of day then he's not worth it... trust me I no :)
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    alliecat32 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 11, 2011, 11:49 AM
    Hey, I'm fat too (or was)... and I like this guy and he is one of my best friends, and now were together. This is how I did it: First: BE WHO YOU ARE! Don't try to buy new clothes, wear more makeup than usual... he will like you for you and only you if not screw him ! Now I know its hard to do that so here is some more advice, if you want to loose weight do it, because now I weight 130, and I feel GREAT ! If you want to loose weight while your at it then set reasonable goals : 50 pounds in 2 months: no - 10 pounds in 2 months -yes (not very good though) first week I started losing I lost 8.6 pounds just exercising for 30mins to 1 hour. But if you want to go all biggest loser on yourself go (but be careful) with 3-4 hours a day. Second: spend more time with him, talk to him, you will know if he's into you ! Trust me it can happen... and by the way if you do loose weight- weigh that day you want to start then start and the next week (ALWAYS WEIGH IN THE MORNING !) on the same day weigh and see how much u've lost... if you only lost 2 pounds SO BE IT! Better than nothing! Keep going don't give up... I was 12 when I started and now I'm 14... in gym class I could barley even run 1 lap around the track... I had to force myself! I was the slowest, then the next summer I went back and had lost about 30-50 pounds and 1 lap was NO problem because I just didn't start running (not good for you !) I started walking for about 45 mintues (now if your really out of shape start walking for about 20-30) then every week I went up 5 mintues and now I can RUN (dont run until your ready and you know you won't get tired: if I got to walking 2 hours and I felt like I was ready with running I went back down to maybe about 5 mintues running and then 10 walking then 5 running, etc. this is long yes ik, but its going to be worth it! Now I can RUN 3 miles without getting very tired and I'm 14 ! Most people ik can't do that ! But I guess what I'm trynna say is stay motivated, set goals (not to big), be yourself, and LOOSE THAT WEIGHT !
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    molleyg4k8 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 17, 2012, 04:14 PM
    Am I over weight as well next year I will also be in high school. I have liked the same guy since 5th grade. First ask if he wants to hang out don't forget to be yourself the whole time. Flirt and tell him how nice he is and how much fun you have together.
    Hopes it works out!!
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    sami woolley Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    May 7, 2012, 09:03 AM
    I'm 12 and I like this guy, I'm the kind of person that when ever a bully wants to bully I'm the one they g for.
    There is this guy that's hot, kind, chilled and sweet, but as you would think he would never like me cause I may not be as thin and as prtty as the other girls (my friends).
    I run everyday do hocky and softball an net ball but still the fat clings onto melike a tic.
    That's not the worst thing he likes my... BEST FRIEND.
    What do I do
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    sami woolley Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    May 7, 2012, 09:06 AM
    The most important thing is be yourself!
    Don't change to get the guy to like you just chill.
    If your friend says that he said you are fat or ugly or anything rude, he is not worth it.
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    sassy1971 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 28, 2012, 09:16 PM
    I am going throw the samething but he likes me and I don't know what to do and every time I am around this guy I git nerves I don't know what to do
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    louise1928 Posts: 69, Reputation: 9
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    May 29, 2012, 12:34 PM
    It doesn't matter what you look like it's all about what's inside that matters.
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    GenBug14 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 13, 2013, 06:29 PM
    I am the same way, I have to monitor my caloric intake, and exercise a lot... I love sports though, I have lost A LOT of weight though, but most times if weight clings to you and you are healthy and active it is just genetic and you will stretch out over time :D
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    Braileybourque1 Posts: 23, Reputation: -2
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    May 11, 2013, 06:19 PM
    I'm also in the 8th grade and going to 9th next year and I have the same problems as you...
    I've never had a boyfriend and I am extremely shy, but what I have started doing is just be clean ALWAYS smell good, clean hair and teeth... (That always helps) lol and just try to be yourself, they should like you for your personality... But if they get to now you , and don't like you just keep your head high because that's their loss.!
    I really hope this helps and good luck..

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