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    Marching ram Posts: 14, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 30, 2013, 07:46 PM
    How to build up confidence?
    Hi everybody. I really like this girl and I know she likes me too. We talk all of the time and she trusts me more than her girlfriends. She makes me feel like the happiest person in the world. I've tried many times to ask her to be my girl friend, but as soon as I go up to her I can't do it.. I get nervous and can hardly say a word. Her friends tried to help me out a little but it didn't happen. I think I might just be over thinking it. It's not easy for me because I've never felt so strongly for someone before. I know she's waiting for me to ask her. Any advice? Greatly appreciated :)
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    Jan 30, 2013, 09:26 PM
    If you want my opinion ask get out by text, phone, message, notes, stars, present, cake, friend, chalk board, tattoo, shirt, head shaving or sign there are many ways of asking her out if your to scared be creative of asking her to be your girlfriend
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    Jan 31, 2013, 05:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Elvisrosas View Post
    If you want my opinion ask get out by text, phone, message, notes, stars, present, cake, friend, chalk board, tattoo, shirt, head shaving or sign there are many ways of asking her out if your to scared be creative of asking her to be your girlfriend
    Thanks for the suggestions, but she just told me that she can't be involved in a relationship right now. She was nice and told me she was sorry and that she really wanted to. I didn't see this coming.. I didn't know how painful it could be to hear that. Thanks for the help though
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    Feb 3, 2013, 05:53 AM
    What do I do?
    Hello. So this girl that I'm in love with just told me that she can't be with me because she thinks I'm too good for her and she is stessing out about things at home and at school. She said that she's always better off being independent. (she's never had a boyfriend before) she told me that I shouldn't give her a chance because she thinks she might dissapoint me. The last thing she told me was that I deserve better. I told her that I understood where she was coming from and I agreed to letting her do her thing. But now I don't think I can do it. It's only been a couple of days but I still love her more than ever. Do I let her leave or chase after her? Thank you for any answers
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    Feb 3, 2013, 06:34 AM
    How old are you ? My answer is different if you are 14, 18 or 30
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    Feb 3, 2013, 06:55 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    How old are you ? my answer is different if you are 14, 18 or 30
    I am 15 and she just turned 17 a few months ago
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    Feb 3, 2013, 06:59 AM
    She is saying this for one of two reason,

    She does not want to be with you and it is just an excuse to try not to hurt your feelings.

    Or she has a very negative self image.

    Why not tell her exactly how you feel and that you want to try anyway.
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    Feb 3, 2013, 07:36 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    She is saying this for one of two reason,

    She does not want to be with you and it is just an excuse to try not to hurt your feelings.

    Or she has a very negative self image.

    Why not tell her exactly how you feel and that you want to try anyway.
    I'll do just that. Thank you :)
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    Feb 3, 2013, 07:46 AM
    Let me also add that the two of you are in different stages of life. It's quite possible that she wants someone closer to her age.

    She's what, a junior? You are a freshman?

    Maybe she is embarrassed dating someone so young.
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    Feb 10, 2013, 03:03 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Marching ram View Post
    Thanks for the suggestions, but she just told me that she can't be involved in a relationship right now. She was nice and told me she was sorry and that she really wanted to. I didn't see this coming.. I didn't know how painful it could be to hear that. Thanks for the help though
    Hello! I feel bad for you but you mentioned that she liked you and that she can't be in a relationship. Well, don't feel hurt she probably just isn't ready. And if you feel so strongy for her wait for her to come around. Oh and when she is ready be creative. Don't think about it just do it! :):p:):p
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    Feb 10, 2013, 09:31 PM
    Take the rejection and move beyond it. Its normal. Give yourself some time and take a look around and talk to someone else.

    You may be in love but she isn't. And that's okay really and at least you tried. Try again with someone else.

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