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    Mar 7, 2015, 08:00 AM
    Having problem with lust
    I'm sixteen years old and I have serious problem with my lust. Each time I see a woman I look at her breasts. Everywhere, in movies, trailers, real life and even video games. I'm a hardcore gamer but these days I can't play well because from the moment I start the game I try to find something sexy in it. Even in the games that don't have anything related to sex (like Final Fantasy), if I see a character which her clothes are a little revealing (for example dance dresses that you can see a little of breasts or something more than that like bikini) I move camera strangely on that character (person) to see her full breast or nipples. Or when I see girls with close fitting dresses that I can see their nipples I become horny and after that I try to masturbute at home.

    I thought I would become better when I became eighteen or nineteen but I found that it will become worst in that ages. Is there any solution for me?

    NOTES: I don't have a girlfriend and I hate masturbution.
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    Mar 7, 2015, 08:24 AM
    You're a 16 year old boy, it's normal. If you are 16 how do you know what will be better or not at 19?
    You need to learn to be OK with masturbation, a girlfriend is not a tool to ease your sexual frustration.
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    Mar 7, 2015, 10:59 AM
    I read that teen boys think about sex every 11 seconds. Maybe 13. Something under 20.

    I've never heard a teen boy say that he hates masturbation. Are you willing to say why here, where you are anonymous? I'm a woman but plenty of men here can give you the best advice. Not saying that girls and women don't masturbate too. You find a place where no one will burst in on you or call you, and you fantasize. Either use your imagination or pictures or even an object that feels good.
    Your testosterone is going wild, as nature intended. Of course nature still has you back in the hunter-gatherer Stone Age, and wants you to procreate while at your physiological peak.
    I'm trying to joke but it isn't funny, and it certainly isn't fair, but life isn't fair.
    You get through this by masturbating!
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    Mar 7, 2015, 01:25 PM
    It's hormones dude, nothing but hormones. They start releasing into your body during your teens and because it's something new to your body and brain, you have to learn how to deal with them. There's nothing about you that every other male didn't have to go through.

    You need to know there are appropriate and inappropriate ways to deal with them. A simple example is looking at a woman's chest is fine but staring to the point where you both are embarrassed is probably not the best move. Pretty soon you will calm down and deal with them like every male has to do.
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    Mar 7, 2015, 03:07 PM
    This isn't a problem, it's a natural condition of humans, both male and female and you will learn to deal with it in time, appropriately. We all do, some better than others, some quicker than others, and some more appropriately than others.

    Some never do, sadly!! Here's a hint, common sense and boundaries of good behavior can guide you best. Think before you ACT, or SPEAK!!
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    Mar 7, 2015, 07:31 PM
    It does get better, or perhaps you get used to it, but it is not as much "lust" you make it sound sinful or wrong? Men and esp 16 year old boys do this.

    I agree, nothing wrong with masturbation, it is a normal part of life and a relief. Why would you think it wrong?
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    Mar 7, 2015, 11:14 PM
    Think before you act is great advice in every aspect of life.
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    Mar 7, 2015, 11:50 PM
    You're 16, if you weren't turned on by the people you're naturally attracted to, in this case women, I'd wonder what was wrong with you.

    Why do you hate masturbation? Have you tried it? If so, what did you do wrong that you ended up hating it? It's a natural thing. Did you know that babies touch themselves while still in the womb? Yup, that's right, they find pleasure by touching themselves! It's a natural thing, everyone does it. Those that say they don't, are lying!

    Are there any girls you're interested in in real life? Maybe it's time to get off the gaming system and meet real people instead of fantasizing about the cartoon characters in you video games. They're not realistic, nor are they real. Time to get out in the world, meet real people. But remember, just because you're horny doesn't mean you get to use a girl just to fulfill your needs. That's why masturbating is something you really should look into either way.

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