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t_2006 · Oct 13, 2006, 04:58 AM

Last night my girlfriend mentioned about a break, I'm 19 and she's 16,
We've been together for over 10 months, I really wonna be with her cause I love her so much, she says she still loves me and still wants to be with me??

What should I do?

Krs · Oct 13, 2006, 05:47 AM

You are both so young.

If you love her, give her the space she asked for.

t_2006 · Oct 13, 2006, 05:50 AM

I just feel that if we have a break ill lose her and thts the last thing I want, I don't mind giving her the space but to me a break means weeks apart maybe even seeing other people...

Krs · Oct 13, 2006, 05:59 AM

Well firstly clarify the meaning of a break with her.
Communication is the key to any relationship, make sure all issues get clarified and understood.

Secondly, if you don't give her space and cling on to her that way u will definitley lose her more than if just gave her the space she asked for. But before doing so talk like I said above

t_2006 · Oct 13, 2006, 06:12 AM

I know its wrong but I love her so much and love to be with her 24/7...
Atm I'm giving her space and time 2 clear her head...
Ill leave it till after she's done work to get in touch with her, although before she signed off msn she said 'bye, even though u aint bin tlkin 2 me x' that snds lyk she wants me talking to her and got giving her time to think?

Krs · Oct 13, 2006, 06:14 AM

You both have to find time and talk things through together as a team. Its hardship and its hard work but work at it.

talaniman · Oct 13, 2006, 06:43 AM

Give the lady what she asked for and do not contact her. Let her call you.

I just feel that if we have a break ill lose her and thts the last thing I want, I don't mind giving her the space but to me a break means weeks apart maybe even seeing other people...

That's exactly what she has asked for and that's what you give her.

chuff · Oct 13, 2006, 06:45 AM

Originally Posted by t_2006

i know its wrong but i love her so much and love to be with her 24/7...

Well that's you first problem. Your smothering her, no wonder she wants space. I've never been in love to the point of not wanting to give up my life. Why would she want too?

Originally Posted by t_2006

atm im giving her space and time 2 clear her head...
ill leave it till after shes done work to get in touch with her, altho before she signed off msn she said 'bye, even though u aint bin tlkin 2 me x' tht snds lyk she wants me talkin 2 her n got givin her time to think??

I have no idea what that last sentence says. Seriously, and I'm not picking on you because others do this but can't there be a rule to write in clear English?

t_2006 · Oct 13, 2006, 06:49 AM

Sorry... any way, she txt me and said about her finishing work early and wanted to do something to try get things back to the way they were, thanks for all your advise

Krs · Oct 13, 2006, 06:51 AM

Talk talk and talk, communicate on what you both want and come to an agreement.

talaniman · Oct 13, 2006, 07:01 AM

Originally Posted by t_2006

sorry... any way, she txt me and said about her finishing work early and wanted to do something to try get things back to the way they were, thanks for all your advise

You can try but things will never go back to the way it was. You have to start fresh and new and go from there.

Wildcat21 · Oct 13, 2006, 08:19 AM

Well, she's too young for you first of all.

You 19 and she's 16 and she's calling gthe shots?

Disappear for a while. Leave her alone. See if she comes back.

dancingtwins · Oct 13, 2006, 09:12 AM

Give her her space and if she comes back it was meant to be. But who knows once you get out there you may find that she wasn't the one for you after all

rawr_itssonya · Oct 15, 2006, 01:14 AM

I have the almost same problem(he's 20 & I'm 16). My boyfriend and I have been together 10 months and all the sudden he wants super space between me && him. I don't know what to do and it seems like I'm going crazy. I'm relly trying to give him his space but its just not working. I know he still loves me and cares but its hard to just not be able to see/talk to the one you love. So I totally feel you on this. As for your girlfriend, I think the break is a good thing as long as it isn't too long and you both stay faithful. I'm sure she loves you its just that she might want to hang out with her gfs more often or something. I don't know

TeamSandG · Oct 15, 2006, 09:09 AM

This is very difficult for us to understand. 19, You are an adult (legally) and she is not! She is only 16 years old.She does not need this in her life right now because she is still a child! I know that people say that kids grow up much faster these days but that is because society says stuff like this is acceptable! We think it is your responsibility as an adult to stop this relationship and get a grip on some reality. No relationship that is that clingy will ever last! It never works. If she wants independence and that scares you it is because you have no self esteem and NEED to be needed. That is not right. You are not emotionally ready for a relationship of this magnitude and neither is she. Sorry if that sounds a little harsh but it is true and we think you know it and that is what scares you.

JoeCanada76 · Oct 15, 2006, 09:10 AM

Stay Away.

s_cianci · Oct 15, 2006, 01:57 PM

Let her have the break. Get on with your life and let her realize that you can enjoy life just as much without her as with her. Meet and date other people and do the things you enjoy without including her. You might even find, after all that, that you don't even really want her back.

Originally Posted by t_2006

i just feel that if we have a break ill lose her and thts the last thing i want, i dont mind giving her the space but to me a break means weeks apart maybe even seeing other people...

Yes, this is all true and it's a two-way street so take advantage of it. How you need to look at it is that she's losing you. When she realizes this as well she might come crawling back to you ; then you can take her back on your own terms.