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happy711 · Jan 25, 2008, 09:14 PM

I know this may sound mean but everyone in my grade hates this one girl. She has 1 friend and that's because she feels bad for her. The girl used to not be that much of a liar, mean... (I can go on and on) person so my friends and I hung out with her. Now we stopped and she keeps on bugging us why we don't invite her anywhere. So we told her online and she said she started to cry but we really didn't feel to bad because all of the things she did to us. Now she said she is willing to change into anyone we want her to be. I think once a person is like that, they will always be. I try to avoid conversation with her at all times so I don't know if I could be her friend again. Do you think she will be able to change?

Death_Maniac · Jan 25, 2008, 09:40 PM

I believe anyone can change into more of a people person as long as they get some attention and help from people that at least kind of care about who this person could be.
But it might also be a personal problem they're facing or a family issue that's bugging them.
Just talk to them and find out what's going on. Let us hear more so we can help.

Fiona92 · Jan 26, 2008, 02:49 PM

Give her one chance tell her she probation make it so you and your friends have all the power in the situation tell her one mess up and she's gone or if you and her just don't get along then think about introducing her to new people that way she can make new friends and not be so obsessed with you and your friends.Hoe this was helpful.

BabiGurl_1616 · Jan 26, 2008, 03:10 PM

How old are you and this girl?! I remember I was young and I use to get picked on! U no what people change.. I'm sorry but I think no one should change themselves just because people want them to.. when she gets older she will realize a lot of things that she did when she was younger... listen I think you should just give the poor girl a chance.. maybe she could change if people started to like her!

happy711 · Jan 26, 2008, 03:14 PM

She is 14 to answer BabiGurl_1616 question. And we told her that she shouldn't change for us but she wants to. She has been this way since she was younger but has gotten worse over the years.

BabiGurl_1616 · Jan 26, 2008, 03:15 PM

Well if maybe you gave her a chance I'm not telling you to! Because there could be reasons behind it.. but my opinion I think you and your friends should give her a chance and c how she reacts to everyone wanting to be nice to her.. if people are there to be friends.. it is a lot easier.. trust me I think her problem is.. is that she is scared to be alone with out friends!

happy711 · Jan 26, 2008, 03:19 PM

k. I will take that into consideration. Ty

BabiGurl_1616 · Jan 26, 2008, 03:27 PM

No problem! I sort of understand her... because when I was younger a lot of people whould make fun of me! And when you do that it really hurts someone.. I'm just worried about her.. mainly because there are some people who get very deppressed whether it is not having friends or family to talk to it is really hard but when you get older you understand why it might have happened! In my situation there was no reason for people to be like that.. but maybe you guys have good reasons.. but I just hope evrything works out the best.. just give her a shot and if she screws up you tell her that you guys did that to try and be nice to her and she messed up so that wouldn't be your guys fault it would be hers... I hope I could have been of some help here!!

pikachufannumber1 · Jan 26, 2008, 11:47 PM

I believe anyone can change. But you should tell her that she should be who she really is, not a liar or pretender, and not who everyone WANTS her to be. Just tell her that if she can shape up with the lying she can hang out with you but as soon as she starts treating you like that again your gone.