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    nicccolllee Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    May 26, 2007, 09:34 AM
    Feeling pressured
    I've been feeling really pressued to do sexual stuff lately.
    A lot of guys ask me for oral sex and to do stuff to me,
    And I don't know if I'm ready to do that stuff yet.
    But one kid I really like who I've known for 4 years wants me
    To do stuff with him too. He's not pressuring me, but I feel pressured.
    He says he likes me too but I'm wondering if he's just saying it cause
    He wants some. It makes me upset to think about it because I've liked
    Him for awhile now. I feel like I have to do it for him to still like me
    And that's not right.
    I know that.
    But you don't get how much I like him.
    And a lot of other girls like him too and they are so pretty and they
    Do that stuff so it makes me feel even moree pressured.
    It sucks. But he hasn't done anything with them yet because "he likes me alot"
    But if I don't do anything with him.. what if he changes his mind :(
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    May 26, 2007, 01:38 PM
    Boys will lie and tell you anything they think you want to hear to "USE" you for their sexual pleasure,

    Never do anything you don't want, and by your writing you appear to be very young, don't rush it,

    And of course he likes you if he thinks he will score and be the first with you. But if he REALLY likes you, he will respect your wishes and be happy to just be your friend without sex. If they say they have to have it or else, then they don't really care for you.
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    May 26, 2007, 02:33 PM
    He doesn't like you a lot. If he did he would not have asked you to give him some. To him its sex. No love or respect he will be getting some-thing from it not giving you anything a repectable girl like yourself would want. Maybe herpes?
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    May 26, 2007, 03:59 PM
    Do not do anything that you do not want to do. It does not matter haw much he says he likes you he is still trying to get you to do sexual stuff. If I were you I would tell him that if he cares so much about you he should not pressure you to do stuff that you are not ready to do. I am proud of you that you have not fallen for his lies to you about the reason he has not done anything with the other girls is because he likes you more.

    That is a bunch of crap.
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    May 27, 2007, 10:20 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by nicccolllee
    ive been feeling really pressued to do sexual stuff lately.
    alot of guys ask me for oral sex and to do stuff to me,
    and idk if im ready to do that stuff yet.
    but one kid i really like who ive known for 4 years wants me
    to do stuff with him too. hes not pressuring me, but i feel pressured.
    he says he likes me too but im wondering if hes just saying it cause
    he wants some. it makes me upset to think about it because ive liked
    him for awhile now. i feel like i have to do it for him to still like me
    and thats not right.
    i know that.
    but you dont get how much i like him.
    and a lot of other girls like him too and they are so pretty and they
    do that stuff so it makes me feel even moree pressured.
    it sucks. but he hasnt done anything with them yet because "he likes me alot"
    but if i dont do anything with him..what if he changes his mind :(
    SAY NO!!
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    May 27, 2007, 10:21 AM
    say no!! 1
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    May 27, 2007, 01:37 PM
    He pressures you. He's immature and he definitely has to get what he wants. He's even manipulating you. He made you believe he likes you so much, but he has a purpose. I don't say he doesn't like you as much as he says he does, but you know as well as me that he might well have a purpose. Please don't ignore this! The fact that you've known him for 4 years doesn't change anything. Even worse, a friend wouldn't "use" you this way, but respect your choices.

    You don't seem ready to have sex; why do it?
    If he likes you as much as he says he does, he should like you just as much if you tell him that you're not ready. If he doesn't understand, it would be obviously that he doesn't care about you but only cares about what he wants from you. So, I hope (for your own benefit) that you'll make the right choice. Take care!
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    nicccolllee Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    May 28, 2007, 11:08 AM
    Well yesterday I figured out... hes not worth it. But thanks guys for your advice. I appreciate it.
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    May 28, 2007, 11:15 AM
    Good for you! :)
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