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    wezziebabii28 Posts: 15, Reputation: 1
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    May 23, 2008, 10:09 PM
    My ex wrote this to me what does it mean?
    You feed off my depression I make you mad everyday and a brokenheart is what I'm left with tyring to love you is a fight that I can't win every time I'm around you your around me your mad every time your around your friend your so happy its like this if I put all my love into this relationship I'm going to loose and be more depressed you say everything I do don't bother you but it do and I no that you no every time your mad it makes me mad and I no sometimes you act madder then what you really are just to make me mad


    Ps:thank you for loving me
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    May 23, 2008, 10:17 PM
    Sounds like he is thinking that you two aren't great together. Apparently you fight allot and it hurts him, and he thinks that you egg him on to make him even angrier when he is mad. Obviously there isn't good communication between the two of you, this sounds like his way of telling you that he's tired of things the way they are.

    Please next time you post, use punctuation, it's really hard to read a post that's just one long run on sentence.

    Good luck.
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    May 23, 2008, 10:25 PM
    Altenweg, I believe the post was a direct quote from a text message the OP received, in which case the lack of punctuation is forgiveable. THIS TIME. Hehe.

    Wezzie, your guy/gal is accusing you of being an instigator. You put him/her on the defensive every time you're around each other. It depresses them, makes them feel hopeless, and they're wondering if you're perhaps doing it on purpose.

    That sounds harsh, doesn't it? Don't get mad though, they're expressing feelings. Feelings aren't about right and wrong, they just are. And they are about impressions.

    So, if there is any truth at all to your tendency to make them explain/defend/fight with you all the time, consider finding those moments and stopping them. At least your part in them.

    You date people in hopes of finding someone who makes you feel better about yourself, whom you feel inspired being around. That's not happening with you two.

    You guys need to work out the logistics of talking and encouraging and tolerating each other, or you need to get away from each other.
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    May 23, 2008, 10:31 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JBeaucaire
    Altenweg, I believe the post was a direct quote from a text message the OP received, in which case the lack of punctuation is forgiveable. THIS TIME. Hehe.

    Wezzie, your guy/gal is accusing you of being an instigator. You put him/her on the defensive every time you're around each other. It depresses them, makes them feel hopeless, and they're wondering if you're perhaps doing it on purpose.

    That sounds harsh, doesn't it? Don't get mad though, they're expressing feelings. Feelings aren't about right and wrong, they just are. And they are about impressions.

    So, if there is any truth at all to your tendency to make them explain/defend/fight with you all the time, consider finding those moments and stopping them. At least your part in them.

    You date people in hopes of finding someone who makes you feel better about yourself, whom you feel inspired being around. That's not happening with you two.

    You guys need to work out the logistics of talking and encouraging and tolerating each other, or you need to get away from each other.
    Had to spread the rep. Great answer. AndI will forgive the puctuation,or lack thereof, this once. ;)
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    May 24, 2008, 02:47 AM
    For every action there is a reaction.

    Some people have become so used to negative reaction because that's all they ever received, sad but true.
    Those that encountered this in their lives tend to be on the 'giving' end to protect themselves from further hurt or it 'enables' them to feel superior over those weaker than themselves. That, in my experience is one of the common causes of becoming an 'enabler'- due to one's own insecurities.

    If this happens to you often, you need to check your motives for this type of behavior within yourself and work on looking at positive sides in yourself and others.

    At any rate, feeding off weaknesses of others is not healthy and can only lead to unhappiness.

    Look at yourself and see if there is room for improvement and please don't be too quick to judge others for their shortcomings.

    Being human can be so complicated at times but we all have a right to our share of happiness and peace of mind. And, there is help out there - all you have to do is ask for it.

    Good luck, and keep us posted.

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    May 24, 2008, 06:22 AM
    He ain't happy with you, and is going in another direction.
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    May 24, 2008, 06:59 PM
    He doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore, he wants out, he said "thank you for loving me" witch means thanks for what you tried to do but it didn't work, it's over.

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