:mad: I am a 13 year old who wants to let her parents who she hates them without actually telling them so I can finally tell them I what is in my head. What is the best approach?

Tell us why you don't like your parents.

Why do you hate your parents because I do hate my parents too but you know we have to live with them no matter what OK so get back to me

Look I don't want you to get all in my business with that. Ijust need the best approach. And it sort of like I don't hate them I just need to get their attention because my brother attempted suicide and they pay more attention to him and I need someone to talk to.

Talk to them. Pin them in a corner. Call a family meeting. What ever it takes. You never hate your parents you just dislike them a lot a lot. They get confused sometimes, especially when having two children.

Thanks you definitely understand and I see I will try that as soon as possible. I appreciate that a lot!

Mental illness can devistate a family. If your brother attempted suicide he is definitely dealing with a mental illness.

Understand that they are not ignoring you, not intentionally anyway. They are just trying to get him better. It may take a while before he is better.

Understand that your parents do indeed love you, they are just consumed right now with many different feelings. They may be feeling guilty, they may think they did something wrong for your brother to feel the way he does.

Yes, you do need to talk to them. Who are you closest to your Mom or Dad? Start with the one who you are closest. Tell them your feelings of being left out. Just take the first step. They will be proud of you for it.

Alexandra_24
I think your comment back to me was extremely rude. You had not mentioned what your problem had been with your parents so I was asking in order to best help you.

Hi Alex,

I am answering you because my daughter's name is Alexandra, and we are going through tough times too. SHe will be 11 in a few months (a pre-teen), but she is very smart and mature, but can be very babyish at times. Your question hit me hard because I personally would be devastated if she ever told me and her dad that she hated us. I think that you should tell your parents that you are feeling very strong anger and or resentment and that you want to find out a way to work things out and TALK so that you would never feel as if you HATE them. I'm sure you do not hate them. I'm certain that you are very angry and need to get some things off your chest. Try it, they may be waiting for you to speak up about many things too. I hope you can talk to them or someone to help you not feel hate. Good Luck & God Bless you.

Alexandra_24 . I am a Mom of a daughter who tried to commit suicide she is 16 1/2 . I did NOT know she felt the way she did . As she would not talk to us . We as parents can't help our children if our children won't talk to us . Maybe writing them a letter telling them how you feel would be a good start . Tell them how you feel and why you feel that way . Now , if it were you that was having a hard time . Wouldn't you want your parents to give you the attention you needed to get better ? It is hard being the parents of multiple children... I have 5 girls , wonderful girls . But if they don't tell me what is wrong I can't help them .
I know how I felt going through my daughter's illness with her . That I would do what ever it took to get her the proper help she needed . In order to get better . I worried for my younger girls . But at that moment she needed the help . And after we got her help . We got our other girls the proper help that they needed to help them deal with all that has gone on . We are parents... not friends . We try our hardest to make the right choices . We don't always make the right ones . But we do make the decisions we make w/ the best intentions for everyone involved . Good luck to you and your family . Rememeber , if we don't talk , how do we expect someone to hear ?

Well first of all whatever you don't like about your parents you can talk to them about tell them what you're feeling. Try to work it out with them. They'll have to understand. Maybe they'll come up with a couple things about you too. Not to say anything mean just as a teen even when we don't mean it we say things that aren't always nice. I've gotten that before and I'm sure I have no clue what-so-ever. 2nd you should try to show them that you love them and even if you don't spend a lot of time together its good to show that you care. 3rd try to be positive. Don't say stuff that will make them agitated try to be a good daugher/son and respect that they're still your parents.

Let me know if I said anything to harsh. Seriously, I'm not trying to be a no good teen. I get that a lot and umm I don't get it.

I'm having problems like you. I'm not saying I hate my parents. Its just different. Okay so I hope I helped! God bless and I hope you find a solution to your problem.:D

All good advice above, if you can't talk to your parents, talk to another mentor or adult. Teacher, neighbor, another extended family member.
Or. Write your parents a note.

Hate is a strong word. Write them a letter, but if all that's in it is you telling them how much they piss you off and how you hate them then don't bother. What teenager doesn't dislike their parents at one point. It's hard for parents to let their kids go, give them a break.

How can you hate your parents? I mean they brought you here, and they probably do all kinds of stuff for you. I think you may dislike them. You should really need to talk to them about it. But you have to understand if you do have (a) sibling(s) that you can't always have the attention. I sometimes feel he same way. My parents are divorced and they both don't like each other so... but I have two younger sisters and an older one. I am basically the misfit the heavier one that looks totally different and everyone tends to pay more attention to them and yeah sometimes I do get upset but talk to them, they will understand. You have to realize that parents have been through stuff like us too so trust them. So just try to talk to them.

Hun, I was the same way when I was your age. Even though I was an only child I felt like my parents didn't care about me at all. They both worked all day, my mom in the army and my dad being a psychologist. I didn't know how to express to them what was bothering me and how them not being there for me really hurt me. But the thing is, I never told them that them not being there was really making me feel bad. When we moved, because of my mom's job, I got really depressed and didn't really snap out of it for about a year. In that time I cut myself a couple times, but still didn't tell my parent's what was going on with me.
Just recently, within the past year, did I tell my mom how bad off I was and it really hit her. She started crying and saying that she wish she would have known how depressed I was, because then she would have done what she could have to helped me.
I know it seems like your parent's are only paying attention to your brother, and it probably seems like your problems aren't that important... but, probably your parents are so overwhelmed with him problems that they keep forgettting about you and your problems.
Why don't you write them each a note telling them how you feel. Don't make it an "I hate you and you don't care about me" sort of thing, just tell them each how you feel and what sorts of things they are doing to make you feel that way.

Hun, you asked for help, did you not?
And honestly, you just answered the question right there.

It's understandable that your parents are paying a lot of attention to your brother after he made an attempt to commit suicide. Frankly, I would be worried if they didn't. I'm assuming you can understand why they're doing this, right?

Right.

You're likely to be going through a lot right now, as well, however, and I know that neglect, even minor, can be painful. Talk to your parents. Tell them that you're going through a lot at the moment and your distressed and upset that they aren't paying any attention to you. Tell them that you need to know that they're aware of you, too.

I'm a very private person and talking to my Mom (or anyone, for that matter) has never been easy. Honestly, I don't do it. But I'm guessing that you don't have my issue since you want to talk to them. When I'm upset I usually hide from people. I can go a long time just fine with being ignored. Some people aren't like that, though.

Talk to your parents, K? Don't say you hate them-- I don't know why your bro attempted suicide, but I'm guessing your parents won't take too well to having another emotionally distressed child about-- but explain to them exactly what you're feeling.

Good luck!