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    smileyJonel Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 13, 2012, 01:16 PM
    I don't know what to do... I want to be adopted real bad!
    I really have no idea how it happened that every time I get angry aat someone in my family I want to get adopted!. my mom and dad got divorced in 2008... my dad got married thaat same year.. and the next year he got divored again.. he re-married last December (AGAIN) my moms engaged!. I just want to start over somewhere new!. and be happpy again! I even tried self harm and suicide !please what should I do?. I tried talking to them.. but no one seems to listen when I talk!
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    May 13, 2012, 01:18 PM
    You are not going to get adopted, first you are not in the custody of the state, and there is no reason to be.

    So you need to start facing facts and dealing with issues.

    So your parents are divorced and remarried, that does not make you happy or sad, that is their business.

    So why are you not happy, your personal issues, not parents marriage.
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    May 14, 2012, 04:47 PM
    Tell them that you don't like what is happening in the hole divorced thing
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    May 18, 2012, 02:58 PM
    Maybe you should get you a journal or something have you tried writhing? I helps allot just write it down maybe you could write how you feel on a sheet of paper and then rip the paper into shreds or ball it up nobody listens to me either and I tried self harm I did the other day but I figured that I have to abide and try to cope with life maybe you should do the same:)
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    May 18, 2012, 04:03 PM
    When home life is unsettling, instead of harming yourself, which is more than likely a cry for attention to try and get your parents to understand how you feel about the family being divided... hurting yourself is NOT the way to get your parents to listen or understand.

    Talk with a school counselor, if possible. Talk to a family member outside the home that you can trust. Talk to a pastor, bishop, rabbi... whatever your faith background might be. Join a Big Brother or Big Sister group. Join a youth organization group. Start doing things for yourself and associating with others who can help you begin the path to emancipation someday. I don't know how old you are, but at age 14 in some states you can become emancipated, if you can care for yourself, such as having a job to support yourself. If not, then as unhappy as it might be continuing to live with your parents, as long as you are physically safe is probably your only recourse unless another family member or relative will take you in, even if only a temporary home away from home. Feeling emotionally unsafe and insecure because of your parents choices, might not feel so bad if you share with others you trust, that you know in the area where you live.

    Ask your parent to enroll you in to Big Brothers or Big Sisters, check it out and see if it is something for you...

    Big Brothers Big Sisters:
    Find a Local Agency - Big Brothers Big Sisters


    Check out these youth groups and see if you might want to join one or two...

    List of Youth Organizations:
    List of youth organizations


    For Your Information later down the road...

    Emancipation:
    Emancipation of Minors | Nolo.com

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