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    Sep 2, 2013, 03:49 PM
    I don't know what to do! Help!!
    Ok so I met a girl on kik. She's in England I'm in the US. So basically, I think she's pretty. She wants me as a friend. I know it's impossible to have a relationship over kik, but I tried. She and I are good friends, but if we fight again she's leaving. She isn't really into me but I love her and we are on completely different continents but I can't stop thinking about her! I'm sad because I'll never meet her or she will never be my girlfriend. I'm also jealous because her best friend is a guy, and she seems to achieve so much compared to me and seems so out of my league. Please I'm so angry and sad. Someone help please!!
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    Sep 2, 2013, 03:56 PM
    What can we help you with? This "relationship" is doomed from the start. You're too far away from each other. You say she's not into you but you love her. How? How can this even work? Then you mention that if you fight again, she's leaving. What does that mean? Does it mean she's leaving her house? Leaving the country? What is she leaving? You? You guys aren't together so I have no idea what she could possibly be leaving.

    Give it up as it's not meant to be.

    And... how old are both of you?
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    Sep 2, 2013, 03:59 PM
    Ok so I'm a little vague. But I mean she's leaving me. She'll block me. And we are both 16. I'm just not very happy right now... I'm sorry if this q is bullsh*t but I don't know what to do
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:02 PM
    There is nothing you can do. She's in another country... obviously she isn't as interested as you are. You can't MAKE her love you. You're only hurting yourself by keeping this going. One day she will end it with you... end whatever it is that you have... and then you will be all hurting. Your best defense, to save yourself, is to forget her and move on now.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:04 PM
    But what should I say to her If I'm going to move on?
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:05 PM
    What do you need to say? You two aren't dating. You're not in a relationship. She talks about "leaving" you. There is no need to really say anything.

    Does she know you "love her" ?
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:12 PM
    This is infatuation. You really don't know her at all. People are usually very different people online than they are in real life. You're in love with the idea of her.

    Find someone you can actually have a relationships with. Someone that actually cares about you the same way you care about them. This girl is a dead end. Even if she was interested, it would never work out. The fact is, she isn't interested in anything but friendship, and you can't seem to accept that.

    Best to go to no contact and find someone you can actually date.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:16 PM
    Yes and please stop putting things in quotes.

    Thanks but I really don't know what to say she won't want me to leave
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by posaunus View Post
    Yes and please stop putting things in quotes.
    Please don't attempt to dictate how anyone on this site posts. Unless it goes against site rules (which quotes do not), your option is to ignore it, or move on.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:19 PM
    So you tell her that you can't go on like this anymore and you have to move on... then do it. It's not a real "relationship" and Alty is right, it's infatuation at this point, not "love".

    "quote"

    "more quotes"

    "I love quotes"
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:21 PM
    Okay thank you so much for your help. And sorry about the quotes it's just that I do love her. Thank you. :)
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:21 PM
    You will lose her because you are an emotional wreck. Girls like guys that are strong and secure with themselves image. You sound like your emotions are all over the place, that is sure to start another fight.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:23 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    You will lose her because you are an emotional wreck. Girls like guys that are strong and secure with their self image. You sound like your emotions are all over the place, that is sure to start another fight.
    He can't lose what he doesn't have.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:24 PM
    A question for you three: can I tell her if she ever needs someone to talk to when its rough for her ill be there as a friend?
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:25 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by posaunus View Post
    Thanks but I really don't know what to say she won't want me to leave
    You say that but she also told you if you fought again that she was leaving. Sounds like she's looking for a reason really.

    Take care of yourself.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:26 PM
    Thank you

    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    He can't lose what he doesn't have.
    This is true :(
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:26 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    He can't lose what he doesn't have.
    TRUE, but for future reference he never will get a girl when he can't control his emotions.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:28 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by posaunus View Post
    A question for you three: can I tell her if she ever needs someone to talk to when its rough for her ill be there as a friend?
    You're setting yourself up for future pain by opening that door. I've been there and learned from it.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:28 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by posaunus View Post
    A question for you three: can I tell her if she ever needs someone to talk to when its rough for her ill be there as a friend?
    Sure you can tell her that, BUT do not expect to hear from her AND her agreeing to that does NOT open the door for you to contact her.
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    Sep 2, 2013, 04:28 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    TRUE, but for future reference he never will get a girl when he can't control his emotions.
    Please stop. I don't want trouble and am in enough deep sh*t already. Just because I have problems doesn't mean I'm not a good person or can't get a girl.

    Okay
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