Hi :)

I'm just wondering how to initiate things with my boyfriend. We've been together twice now for a total of 10 months. That may sound all well and good, but we've made out twice. In one night. That's IT. Sometimes I just want to grab him and kiss him, but I chicken out. I'm more experienced in kissing than he is, as I'm his only ever girlfriend and I've had 2 other brief bf's. It might also have to do with the fact that we've been friends forever and it's a little hard to make the transition. More so for him than me. When I see him and even when I'm not with him, I just want to run up and kiss him like there's no tomorrow - as corny as that sounds. I don't know how to start it really. With the other couple guys they sort of started it, or we went in at the same time. We just knew. But with my boyfriend its different. Its like I have to ask for a kiss. Its only ever a peck too. I am a hopeless romantic so that doesn't help, but still, we've been together for so long yet we've only made out (for a short time) twice. Mum said to my friend the other day that you'd thinnk we'd be having sex by now lol. Neither of us want to have sex yet, but still - making out isn't that hard. How do ibe more flirtacious and appealing so that he just want to grab me a kiss me? He's always saying I look beautiful and comments on my hair etc, but he never really kisses me much :S I'm not really a flirty girl, mainly cause I don't know exactl how to. I know the whole eye contact thing, good breath, smile etc, but the talking part. What do I say? Its my birthday part on the weekend and I would love a nice birthday kiss from him :D help me! I'm hpeless lol :P
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This is the same BF that you think is gay?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ml#post1755552

Figure out where your relationship is first. Don't rush into sexual things because you're still young. How old are you?
He's not ready for sex and that is why he's not putting the moves on you yet. Just enjoy being a teen and having fun.

Uh yeah :S
Hey, a girl can have hopes :) I'm still with him and he still loves me and I still want to be a normal couple despite what he may be confused about. I'm not going to just stop holding hands or kissing or anything just cause he might be gay.

Oops, didn't read the second part :S
Yh I don't want sex either, I wasn't meaning that... I just meant more kissing etc... no way are we ready for sex lol
I'm 17. Just want a relatively normal relationship :S

Not all guys just want sex.
There are some guys out there who guard their virginity as much as a lot of girls do.

Like NM said, just take it slow, the more you pressure him into it the more unlikely he is to do anything with you, you will both be ready for sex and other things when you are both ready.

The thing is he may not be ready for more kissing etc. Those things tend to lead into a deeper level of sexual activity and since you say you're both not ready for it, why tempt yourselves?

Again, I stress just enjoy the relationship and don't put too many expectations on him.