I met the woman I will marry June 1, 2007 when we were 14 years old. We got together on September 19, 2007. She told me that her dad doesn't allow boyfriends, so I knew something would happen eventually.

For months, we talked over internet or phone whenever her dad wasn't around. Every other weekend, she goes to her mother's house. Her mother is a bad person. When my girlfriend was little, she was abused by her mother. She goes to her mom's house every weekend due to legal issues I am still confused about.

A couple times we got together (somehow) at the mall and my house. When she is at her mom's house, she is allowed to do whatever. Her mother is trying to get my gf's approval so she can unleash legal hell and gain custody of my girlfriend until she is 18. So for months, I have been talking to my girlfriend whenever she goes to her mom's house. She visited my house twice. In the first month or 2 of our relationship, we realized there is no other person in the world for us but each other. We love each other with no bounds. We know that there is no other person in the world that will make us as happy as we make each other.

From the time when I got together with my girl, her dad has been reading every single e-mail that she sends and receives. The whole time, he knew about us. Both of us are Christians and we believe that sex should wait until after we are married. We were talking about sex for a while and expressing ourselves deeply. Bad idea. Her dad is reading emails the whole time.

Her dad confronted her about me. So then... her dad goes into verbal abuse. Telling her that she is just like her mom and that she has AIDs. Her whole family acted like they deeply hate her. He made up lies to make her feel horrible... Well... a few weeks ago, it got to her... she gave in. Her dad forced her to break up with me. This devastated me at first. I realized I can wait a few years until she is 18.

By the way, this isn't everything that he has done... this is a basic outline... I don't think she would be comfortable if I told more. Well... yeah. I am wondering if there is anything I can do to shorten these three years I would have to wait. Any ideas?

If I have to wait... I will... because I love her more than anything else in the world... I would do anything to hold her in my arms until the end on my life. I love her more than life itself.

If you have any ideas, please share them... they would be deeply appreciated.

Sorry for all your problems, but it looks as if you'll be waiting. Just so you know, your not the first one at your age to think this will last forever, but I have a feeling you will learn on your own, the hard way. Good luck partner.

Ohhh to be 14 again and knowing, or rather thinking, that you have found the love of your life. If its love like you say it is then you may have to wait. It's not a good idea for her to disobey the person that has given her life and takes care of her. Not until she is at least 18 anyway. Real love stands the test of time and those few years may just fly by. But don't be surprised if you feel differently in the interim.
Good luck

Ahh... I miss those days when you knew who you were going to marry so easily. Sadly, I think you will find out quickly about the trials that love will put you through. You can do nothing but wait until she's 18, and that seems like a ways away, I hope it works out for you though