Hiya my mate (won;t say her name) but she keeps saying she hates life and she needs help to have fun. I didn't know what she meant by it and I thinlk she is really confused at the moment. She says she wants a boyfriend cause she gets real lonely and needs someone to hold and kiss. I thought this was werid! She says she wants to channge the world because she don't get any of it. Maybe she wants to spice up her life I don't know. Can anyone help her or me to tell her anything?

Arr, seems quite normal, hating life and all that when you are a teenager.

Just be there as a friend to her, and as for her needing someone to hold and kiss, well, maybe it's the companion ship she should be looking for more, because that by far what a relationship is about.

As for what's behind her problems, talk to her about it.

She told me she loved this guy but she don't know if he wants to go out with him or not. I will talk to her about it but what if she still feels the same? And I'm afriad she will try and do something don't know what but if you get me. She's really depressed I know I need to talk to her I do sometimes about it but she keeps saying no I'm depressed just leave me alone and I really don't no what to do.

Reasure her its OK to talk and your there if you want to. There isn't anything else you can do.

As for love, I doubt it other wise it wouldn't of been "hugs and kisses" she just wanted, love goes a bit deeper ;)

What she probably meant was "i fink hes fit, init"

And the self harm, normally self harmers don't talk about it. But just be a friend, and tell her your there to listen.

That's all you can do. =]

OK thank you na I think she really loves this guy she goes on about him all the time and then after she says its never going to work but she's been out with him before, she keeps making her self more and more depressed.

Poor girl, love can be the best and worst thing ever. FACT. And what makes it even more confusing, is that it can feel like that at the same time.

Love is such a mind*****!

Do you think she should ask this guy out again? And what if he says no that's one think I'm afriad of cause she will be more depressed and will hate herself but she really loves him and if she don't ask him out I think that will get her upset as well cause she wants a boyfriend but she only wants that guy. If he says yes she would be happy again. What's the chances he will say no?

I really can't answer that question, because I don't know who these people are. I don't know the chances, because I don't know anything remotly near to be able to tell you the chances of him saying yes or no, hell she doesn't even know what he will say, and that's probably what's adding to even more upset with her. Im afraid I can't help you out any more.

Could this friend be you.
Seems like she has the same problem as you about getting an ex back :cool: :cool:

Well me not telling :S

Thanks for the advise though

Take that as A yes it was about you then ;)

Don't self harm.

Lol I just didn't want to say it was me

Hi candybabe.. here's a story about a young lady I know that lived in our street.
Now, here's a teenager who was set in her ways, and nobody on this earth was going to change her mind.

Because:
She's dated this guy about four or five times. They even had sex together (it was the first time for both) - which for sure - according to what she's heard and learned makes it love for a lifetime.

She's really was sure she was in love with him and would never, ever, love another - not even if the other guy was cuter, had more money, and treated her good. Because, don't you people know that the first love is always the last love of your life!

While they were dating, she argued with him for nothing, just to be right. And she broke up with him - probably because she thought it was the 'in' thing to do. Heard it from her friends - and they in all their wisdom, were always right.

When she broke up with him, she expected him to put up a fight for her and swear ever-lasting love. But this didn't happen, so all kinds of stuff went through her mind and she just couldn't accept the fact that she messed up. And how dare him - he made a fool of her in front of her friends at school.

Since he played hard to get - which boys should never have done to her, she could not stop thinking of him as the 'one that got away' so she just had to have him back.

She asked her friends for ideas on how to get him back, but they were busy having similar problems, and they did not pay enough attention to her problems.

It just was no fun going out to the movies alone, seeing all those couples, and no fun going out because she was always asked where her 'boyfriend' was... What a terrible bother. Especially when the weather was so nice - and there was no b/f to go swimming with, and to show off to everyone else.

So, she thought she'd find out where he was going and followed him for weeks - and still did not get the wanted results.

She was so heartsick that she couldn't concentrate in school; was moody at home; frustrated her parents and relatives because she was an unsatisfied 'woman'. It was so bad that she thought she'd never have a life because of this guy.

So... what kind of advice would you have given this poor young lady??

To make a long story short, this 'girl' has had zillions (well not that many) of boyfriends, had a great education, met new friends, got married, has a daughter who is going to be a mother herself... She joined this forum to pass on some experience to help others to cope with day to day life..

Me!

Welcome to the real world, and you can trust us when we say "We've been there, done that" AND WE SURVIVED gaining more knowledge, independence, and trust in ourselves with each experience.


Hang in there dear, you'll get through this too.
Just think of the great ways you can help your kids and grandkids.. Because you too SURVIVED.

Thank you I loved that! That was wicked, I guess everyone does go through these times. Thank you so much!!

Glad I was able to help a little.
Now, go out meet new friends, enjoy your youth - you'll have to mature and grow old soon enough - don't rush it.

Again, good luck, and have lots of fun while you still can.

As I wipe a tear from my eye I must acknowledge that you Ladies ROCK!

Lol great comment!

You probably should say you're special to the world really and everyone knows that