I'm a teenager looking for an answer? I want to know how abandond children feel? And for those who aren't abandond how do you feel about the subject? And I want to know what gives the parents the strength the power to leave?:(

I'm not sure what your asking. But if it's about parent's abandoning their children then I know all too well. My parent's didn't leave me, they just didn't rasie me. I'm 21 now, but because of all the hardship's I've faced I still am like a child. My father was abusive and my mother was mentally unstable. As a child I thought that if my parent's loved me why did they yell at me and call me names? I feel depressed and loney because my parent's didn't teach me the things they should have. I was abused mentally and verbally. My whole life people have said they cared and left me alone to wonder why? So I know what this feeling is. I think any parent that can abandon there child needs to get help. First of all people shouldn't have kids unless they're ready for it. For those parent's who abandon there child mentally that is the worst way to grow up. Having no one to go to. To trust or cry with.

Just think of how it would feel if you had been someplace with your parents, turned around and no one was there? And no one came back? You have immediate feelings of being scared, very frightened, lonely, nervous, your trust has been broken, you may start to feel guilty - as in perhaps causing the parents to leave and pleading for them to come back and you would take on the responsibility. Like being the only one in the dark with all the scary noises around and no one comes to turn on the light and say everything is okay. No one shooes the monsters away from under the bed.

I do not know if it is power or strength that causes the parents to abandon their child or children. I think if they had strength they would find a way to make the family right. I think it comes from a despair that is do deep that they cannot function in it any longer. So the decision to abandon their child or children becomes the way out for both. Thinking the children will benefit from intervention and that they can start all over again with their own life. Sometimes the decision to abandon is the better one - for the physical and emotional safety of the child or children. So perhaps there is a strength involved - that the parents come to the understanding that they can no longer provide for their offspring. Hopefully, in that case, the parents just do not dump them on the street, but at least bring them to a social services or hospital or shelter.

What a great load to place on a child's shoulder. Who will be there make sure that child does not succomb to the night?

I was abandon, and it hurts to this day. It make you pay and pay, I felt werthless, scared, unloved, and to be sure tortured for life. I have terrible vilent nightmares, I have a very hard time trusting people, and I away exspect anyone I care about to leave me, witch has proven to be a self fullfilling prophecy, I have only one person in my life who has stuck with me through a living hell for 10 years, through all the mood swings and the uncontrolable cring, the anger outbursts. I hope I shead some light on the subject for you if you want to know more just let me know. Good luck, God bless and protect you. Your newest friend Beverly Novak

Ok... Well my mom abandond me and my three siblingswhen I was at the age of I think 11 the fifth grade. And now I'm a teenager in high school as an sophomore. I struggle to this day to trust. My dad yells at me and even some times tells me he's here for ever! But I still to this very day can't tell him the things that I can to my best friend. He gets mad at me. I don't mean to do this on purpose. I just can't and I can't tell him that's how it is. So he reads my diary, myspace, text messagine, just about everything he can get his hands on. And it just hurst me even more! I cry myself to sleep just about every night I need help!

What helped me was believing there was a reson thing were the way they were maybe to make me stronger, or maybe to make me more understanding to other peoples pain, the biggest thing was that from a very young child I believed in God, some how I new that even if know human ever loved or valued me God did, so I know it dosen't take the sting away from the pain, but hopefully it will give you something to hold on to. I would sujest that you talk to a school councler, I know its not easy, and scary, but they can help guide you in the right direction. Your Friend Beverly Novak

I try to talk to people but its hard. I use to look up to GOD every day and talk to him. I use to even write to him in my diary I called it "Dear GOD" But one day I came home from school and my dad read my diary! I said that's it! I couldn't trust no one after that! I kind of stopped praying to god and stopped talking to my dad. And now I can only talk to my BEST friend. Its really hard.:mad: