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    mmcpower Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 11, 2007, 07:57 PM
    My boyfriend want to Hang out with his female friend
    My boyfriend decided he wanted to start hanging out with his female friend that he has known since 3rd grade, should I be worried? He also talks to to his ex-girlfriends all the time. I am very insecure about this because the girl that he wants to hang out with is really beautiful and skinny, I'm not fat but no means skinny like her. I am crushed I have never met her and she just started coming around again in the last couple of weeks. Please help
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    Jul 11, 2007, 08:03 PM
    Don't be too worried, maybe he is asking you for attention in a way. Maybe he is just confused on who he wants, anyhow read your other question, as this question is almost the same, and I answered your other one
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    Jul 12, 2007, 08:52 AM
    If he has known her sine 3rd grade then chances are they either were best mates at one stage or they always have been very good friends.Its OK to have close friends of the opposite sex as long as that's the way it stays unless there single in which your case he isn't.If she's better looking then you then so what he obvisully loves you for who you are and not for your looks,Ive have female friends that are way better looking and more willing to put out then some of my exs but I always wanted my exs and not the friends.
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    Jul 15, 2007, 09:57 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mmcpower
    My boyfriend decided he wanted to start hanging out with his female friend that he has known since 3rd grade, should I be worried? He also talks to to his ex-girlfriends all the time. I am very insecure about this because the girl that he wants to hang out with is really beautiful and skinny, I'm not fat but no means skinny like her. I am crushed I have never met her and she just started coming around again in the last couple of weeks. Please help
    Well. I had something similar that ended up not so good but we got past it and are engaged now. Be calm but careful. If you think something's up call him on it right away. That was my mistake I sensed something off and didn't start voicing my opinion until after something happened.

    Be honest but if you don't have a genuine feeling that something's "wrong" don't obsess over the "what ifs" because then you'll end up driving both of you crazy.
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    Jul 15, 2007, 10:06 AM
    Try not jumping to any conclusions. That usually will ruin a perfectly good relationship... trust me, it happened to me. Insecurities happen with everyone but you need to keep in mind that which is that you are his girlfriend, not his ex. And she obviously is his ex for a reason. She might be skinnier and prettier, but he's still with you and he still comes home to you so to speak. Try not stressing it and you will be fine. I'll be here to help you no matter what, good luck.
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    Jul 16, 2007, 12:14 AM
    If you're boyfriend as female friends this is a good sign. It means he doesn't see women as good for one thing, or over-idolise them. Neither are good. So be pleased you have a well rounded boyfriend. Also his friend probably thinks you are prettier/cooler than her - everybody has insecurities about something. It is important not to let this ruin your relationship. Jealousy is a bad habit to form.
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    Jul 23, 2007, 04:32 AM
    When I first started going out with my boyfriend, I was really insecure about him having SO MANY female friends. However, we've been together a year now and are actually engaged - obviously I'm not saying the last part will or does apply to your situation hun, but the point is that every day he comes home to me, he loves me and appreciates me and trust me hun, I'm not half as pretty OR skinny as his female friends.
    I agree with what's been said, if you really truly suspect something, call him on it, but for now why not just say that you'd love to meet his friends (even if you don't). My mom told me something that, while it sounds harsh, actually makes a lot of sense: If you have no reason to suspect anything, act like you don't care. Be confident and happy about yourself, because at the end of the day, he's with you, and not her.
    Take care hun. :)
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    Jul 23, 2007, 04:35 AM
    Don't worry about it, he chose you over them didn't he?
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    Jul 23, 2007, 08:18 AM
    NO need to get jealous on that, but "trust GOd tie your horse" u get that?
    If I were you I won't jump into the conclusion, but it doesn't mean I don't care. ALways pay attention about his relationship with other female friends, at mean time u must keep cool and analyze things rationally.
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    Oct 11, 2009, 08:23 PM

    It is very hard to watch your man be friends with a female you feel looks better than you.
    First. You need to look at your relationship. Are you two happy and in love. Would he have a reason to cheat
    Secondly. Are they friends with you. Do they hang around when you are around
    Thirdly. How does he act with them around. Any flirting going on by them or him ? Just keep an eye out and your smart enough to see what is really going on.
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    Oct 15, 2009, 08:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by sGt HarDKorE View Post
    dont be too worried, maybe he is asking you for attention in a way. Maybe he is just confused on who he wants, anyhow read your other question, as this question is almost the same, and i answered your other one

    I don't agree with that at all. He IS HER BOYFRIEND, it IS plausible that a male CAN have female friends WITHOUT sexual encounters or relationships.

    Statements like the one you just made are the reason for "ALL MEN ARE PIGS" statements.
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