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    undermyumbrella Posts: 30, Reputation: 2
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    May 14, 2007, 06:26 PM
    Boyfriend sleeping over at best friends house evryday
    Just have a question... is it bad if your boyfriend constantlly stays over at his best friends house. And I dun mean like on the weekend... like he sleepover at his house on the weekend all the time and sometimes during the week.. cause he doesn't live close, but there always together, and he never ever calls when he's with him, and I always have to call his best friends cell to reach him, because he lost his cell :( it just gets relli annoying. I mean I have best friends but I dun constantly see them and sleepover like every other day. And its like why even bother getting a girlfriend if you dunt have time for her? And dun get me wrong I'm not jelous or anything... but imagine trying to reach your boyfriend constantly and he never calls and is always with his best friend. Thnks for your time :)
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    May 14, 2007, 06:45 PM
    Bless hun speak to him when your next with him but don't nag him it'll prob send him over to his best mates even more. That is a bit weird I can understand him staying over but I can't see why he wudnt want to speak to you at all. Does he not even just text you once or twice or a quick phone call? And when you do talk to him when he is away on his mates phone does he sound annoyed at all?
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    May 14, 2007, 07:12 PM
    I told him in the beginning of the relationship... that I just want it to be me and him... and not his best friend in between us.. and he understood me and talked to his best friend. Personally, I would really want him to be home more often and not at his friends (during the week) cause he's ALWAYS there, and noo he never calls, well never is a harsh word lets just say he calls evry three days or so, but considering I dun see him at all excpet on weekends that's a bit disappointing :(. Like today he was supposed to call me... and when I called, his mom said he was at his friends house, so I guess he forgot like those other 1000000 times, lol did I tell you he didn't even call on our 2 months anniversary lol even though I told him to call. It would be much easier if he didn't loose his cell phone that way I could call him.
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    May 16, 2007, 04:11 PM
    Ive never been in a relationship but if he is giving more attention to someone else other than you(only exceptions are extended,immediate family)It might be time to Leave him but before you do that have a long hard chat with him because for all you know his friend could be dealing with a personal issue(family member dying etc)and he is relying on your boyfriend for support.Or they could be looking at (beep) or worse. Do what you thinks best.
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    Jun 3, 2007, 09:40 AM
    Sweety I read this and have you ever kissed your boyfriend?
    Has he ever made a move on you?
    Do you think he spends so much time with his best friend because he is... Gay/homosexual and is just denying it?
    Talk to him be firm and tell him your there.
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    Jun 5, 2007, 08:07 PM
    Nooo I know for a fact my ex boyfriend wasn't gay... trust me we went further then making out, its alrite though he's my ex now, yeppp he lost feelings for me so we ended our 3 month relationship.
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    Jun 5, 2007, 11:49 PM
    Omg! You have the same situation as I do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7mths now and the same thing. Whilst he answers my calls, I'm always phoning him. He never phones me. When I question him about it, he gets ty or comes up with every excuse under the sun as to why he couldn't and doesn't phone me. As for the girl part or best friend issue, mine too best friend is a girl. He has slept the last 3 nights in a row at her house but claims their just friends. It is annoying and whislt you want to trust them but its hard not to think there's something going on.

    With much hesitation, I did approach my guy and whislt we didn't speak for a week it does turn out that it was just because his friend was going through family problems and she need someone there to talk to. I still don't like it (she should find her own man to talk to) but they are friends and I have to deal with it and get over my insecurities. It shouldn't matter whether his friend is femalel or male. She's his friend and they are entitled to see each other or talk. If you had this talk to your partner and things didn't turn out, well maybe then its for the best.

    It takes both of you to meet each other. You should as I said before believe that he is genuine and his friends do have issues at the moment in which they need support but he too needs to meet you halfway. He should understand that whilst he can be there for his friend to support her, he should also still be there for you as his girlfriend. That he should respect your wishes of him not staying there as much and know when to draw a line. That he should be there for you to. You both can't have a decent relationship with each other unless you spend some time together and make sure that its quality time, without any interruptions.
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    Jun 6, 2007, 05:54 AM
    Wow I stay at all of my friends houses all the time... barely home. But when a girl calls I damn sure talk. I don't neglect them because I'm not at home. And staying at your friends houses all the time surely don't mean you're gay.
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    Jun 7, 2007, 06:22 PM
    Seee why couldn't my ex be more like you clueless_guy_2007. Urghh and flow_girl I know exactly what your going through. But at then end I realized he's not worth my time, I tred so hard to make our relationship work... yet at the end look who got hurt... MEEE. I haven't talked to my ex for like 2 weeks now, and in a way I'm so happy, but don't get me wrong I miss himmm, I really do, but I know I deserve a better guy.
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    Jun 14, 2007, 06:07 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by undermyumbrella
    just have a question...is it bad if ur boyfriend constantlly stays over at his best friends house. and i dun mean like on the weekend....like he sleepover at his house on the weekend all the time and sumtimes during the week..cause he doesnt live close, but there always together, and he never ever calls wen hes with him, and i always have to call his best friends cell to reach him, because he lost his cell :( it just gets relli annoying. i mean i have best friends but i dun constantly see them and sleepover like every other day. and its like why even bother getting a girlfriend if u dunt have time for her? and dun get me wrong im not jelous or anything.....but imagine trying to reach ur boyfriend constantly and he never calls and is always with his best friend. thnks for ur time :)
    Honey... I think he's gay. If he's not even calling you when they are together there's something not playing right. Ok lets say he's not gay but when two friends are together that much either they are being with each other or up to no good. I think you need to revaluate your relationship if a man loves you he will do his best to spend most if not all his free time with you. Or maybe he's just having more fun with his friend than you! Either way find another man... Hope things work out and sorry for being so honest..

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