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    Oct 7, 2016, 08:31 PM
    Boy troubles
    Is it true that guys flirt in front of the girl they like with other girls? Because I really like this guy and he seems like he might have a crush when we talk in the hallways but then in class he flirts with 2 or sometimes three other girls. But I'm confused because he's not a boy, he's the quiet guy but he has no problem teasing them, flirting, etc.. I'm so sad and confused does he like me or not? Also we've had more "romantic moments" than he does with the other girls. But he doesn't tease me as much as he teases the other girls so is he interested in me or not? Sorry this is a stupid question but I'm desperate to know if I should try flirting with other guys to make him jealous or not, and if he's interested in me or maybe sees me as a friend or should I just move on? HELP :(

    So I really like this guy and I want to see if he likes me back. This probably won't make sense, but : is there a way to show a guy you like him without being blatantly obvious but make it obvious enough to see how he reacts? I've talked to him a lot, lent him my highlighters in class, asked what class we have next, talk to him at badmington, but I want to do something more to see what his reaction is. Btw this is the guy from the first question I asked, so I'm still terribly confused
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    Oct 7, 2016, 09:11 PM
    How old are you all?
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    Oct 7, 2016, 09:21 PM
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    How old are you all?
    16 years old, why?
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    Oct 7, 2016, 09:54 PM
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    16 years old, why?
    Our advice depends on your age. We aren't going to give a 12 year old the same advice we would give an 18 year old.
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    Oct 7, 2016, 10:03 PM
    I have insomnia (1 am for me) so I'll try to give my opinion. You are asking a bunch of questions only he can answer. Or you! You sense that he likes you, so I don't see why you shouldn't believe your intuition on that. How to show him you like him, and how to find out if he likes you more than the girls he flirts with? I wouldn't flirt with guys, because you don't seem like you'd even enjoy it.

    Does he look over at you when he flirts with girls? Roll your eyes and shake your head, just a little. Start acting a little miffed, just a little. Just to let him know that it's not so enticing. A more mature version of flirting with other guys. Maybe even say something sarcastic, if he starts to talk to you. "Aren't you exhausted from all that flirting?"

    I hope you have a best friend. High school romance can be heaven and it can be hell. You need a bestie to comfort each other if things go wrong. It's possible that he just wants to keep flirting and seeing how many girls he can get interested in him. I don't know - WE aren't there! You tell us.

    Thinking back to high school a million years ago, I remember that most relationships started in the halls. Pause to talk, linger to talk longer.
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    Oct 7, 2016, 10:30 PM
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    Our advice depends on your age. We aren't going to give a 12 year old the same advice we would give an 18 year old.
    I'm sorry, I didn't mean to come off as rude, I was curious. Will I have to clarify my tone of voice I'm writing in every time I write a post? Because it kind of seems like that and I'm not trying to be rude, maybe it'd be better for me to get off this website since I'm coming off as rude.

    Quote Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    I have insomnia (1 am for me) so I'll try to give my opinion. You are asking a bunch of questions only he can answer. Or you! You sense that he likes you, so I don't see why you shouldn't believe your intuition on that. How to show him you like him, and how to find out if he likes you more than the girls he flirts with? I wouldn't flirt with guys, because you don't seem like you'd even enjoy it.

    Does he look over at you when he flirts with girls? Roll your eyes and shake your head, just a little. Start acting a little miffed, just a little. Just to let him know that it's not so enticing. A more mature version of flirting with other guys. Maybe even say something sarcastic, if he starts to talk to you. "Aren't you exhausted from all that flirting?"

    I hope you have a best friend. High school romance can be heaven and it can be hell. You need a bestie to comfort each other if things go wrong. It's possible that he just wants to keep flirting and seeing how many girls he can get interested in him. I don't know - WE aren't there! You tell us.

    Thinking back to high school a million years ago, I remember that most relationships started in the halls. Pause to talk, linger to talk longer.
    Thanks for the helpful advice :) I do have a best friend and I tell her everything, she's basically a sister to me. He does look over at me when he seems to be flirting. I'm going to take your advice, thanks again so much :)
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    Oct 8, 2016, 06:48 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by CuteButDevilish View Post
    I'm sorry, I didn't mean to come off as rude, I was curious. Will I have to clarify my tone of voice I'm writing in every time I write a post? Because it kind of seems like that and I'm not trying to be rude, maybe it'd be better for me to get off this website since I'm coming off as rude.
    Couple points of advice it would be wise to heed in life.

    #1 Patience... get lots more of it.
    #2. Don't be so hypersensitive (you will see the reason for this for the rest of your life), the question J_9 asked was very appropriate for the exact reasons she gave you. Advice is never really one size fits all. Particularly around your age and this subject. People WILL ask you questions throughout life, and how you respond to them WILL determine what options are available to you in the future. One example... do that during a job interview... and odds are you won't get the job.
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    Oct 8, 2016, 07:14 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by CuteButDevilish View Post
    I'm sorry, I didn't mean to come off as rude, I was curious. Will I have to clarify my tone of voice I'm writing in every time I write a post? Because it kind of seems like that and I'm not trying to be rude, maybe it'd be better for me to get off this website since I'm coming off as rude.
    Whoever said you were being rude? I certainly didn't.

    You see, knowing your ages is important when answering questions in certain categories. When we know your ages we can give you more appropriate advice. You need to stop being so defensive. Boys don't like that.
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    Oct 8, 2016, 11:18 AM
    If you get a chance, let us know how it goes. Good luck. (I'm not a fan of deceit and manipulation, so was hesitant to suggest anything phony, but don't think that's really phony.)
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    Oct 8, 2016, 01:42 PM
    Based on the way he's behaving, I would have guessed you all were around 12, and I would have answered the question thinking you all were around 12.

    Bottom line, if he likes you, he's playing games. Do you really want a relationship with someone that flirts with every girl he sees and then messes around with you? Do you really want to resort to making him jealous so you can get him? What happens when he's no longer jealous? Then you have to rely on things like actual trust, and caring. Actual trust and caring means not flirting with everyone. Doesn't sound like he's relationship material at this time.

    Sounds like he likes playing the field with lots of different girls. Talk to him, tell him how you feel, see if he feels the same way about you, then go from there, but don't be surprised if he just views you as one of the many girls he likes to flirt and mess around with.

    Good luck. :)

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