Okay, so I'm 13 and I live in England. I'm more mature than most girls my age so all of my friends are 15 or 16. But now boys have got into the equation and I don't know what I should do, because I don't know whether these boys would want sex and stuff and wouldn't want to wait for me. Plus, it's all getting confusing because I like around 4 guys and I don't know which one to go for!

Guy one is 15 and in year ten. He's the guy that everyone likes. You know the type? Really hot, a talented skater with the best hair who isn't clever but makes up for it by being gorgeous and adorable. I go red whenever I see him and I think he notices. Plus his sister hates me, but I have obsessed over him for about 3 years now - even before I knew him.

I met guy two in Portugal and we've kept in contact ever since. I've loved him since I first saw him and whenever I'm upset or something he's always their for me, even though we've only met twice. He's the coolest, in a band that know Bullet For My Valentine and the long blonde haired lead singer. Again, you know the type. But he's 15, turning 16 next year and in year eleven about to go to college. And he lives ages away, so I've not seen him for a year.

Guy three is different. He's 16, in year twelve, one of the youngest of the year twelves. He's really nice to me and we can speak without me going red, while on the inside thinking 'woooow, he's so cute'. I can imagine staying with him for a long long time, but his brother's in the same year group as me - the same age. Would that be strange? I don't want him to be called a paedophile, because he's such a nice guy.

Guy three is like the 18 year old version of guy one. Honestly, they are so similar that it's strange! But my friend likes him and he's going out with a 15/16 year old girl in year 11. He's so sweet, but I think of him more as a extremely good looking friend, at the moment.

So what am I supposed to do? Just give up on guys? Please bare in mind that I am mature for my age and all of the boys in my own age group are immature, and don't love me. I want somebody who I know would love me. So that's why at the moment I'm more ready to get with guy three, or guy two. What do you all think?

I think you're too young to be "looking for love", I mean, a fling okay.. but a real commitment is too much for a 13 year old girl, even if you are mature. Anyway, you shouldn't go out with the 18 year old, because that would make him a candidate for being called a pedophile. Next if guy one isn't clever and just hot, the relationship woun't last a long time because all he's got going for him is looks. Guy two doesn't even live near you so forget it.


Okay: I say guy three, the 16 year old who is really sweet and doesn't make you feel too nervous. I don't think he'll get called a pedophile because if your really that mature and you hang out with 15 year olds it wouldn't be too hard to believe. But just remember, a 13 year old shouldn't need to be so wound up in these love sitations, if you like someone and they like you go for it.. Don't try too hard to look for love :).

Guy three all the way hunny!

Well, I agree with barbiechick123 in that you shouldn't be looking for love. A 'fling' is a nice way to put it.

Also, good for you that you want to wait for sex. That is a very mature decision. When the time does come, make sure you are practicing safe sex.

I would like to just express my concerns regarding your age. Not to offend you, but you are young. I don't know how many of these guys you're talking about would be interested in you as a girlfriend, or anything more than a friend. Especially the 18 year old.
Myself being a 16 year old, I know a 13 year old which I am pretty sure likes me, but I would never go for anything more than friendship with her. I DO look at her as a child. Maturity aside, the age difference is fairly significant at this age.

With that said, if you're really sure you want to pursue one of these guys,
Guy 2 is out of the question, (distance).
Guy 4 seems a little to old, and if sexual acts were to occur, I am not sure of your local laws.
Guy 1 sounds like a purely physical attraction.

So, through process of elimination, Guy 3, I guess.

Again, and I cannot stress this enough, be careful of what these friends intentions with you are. You may still be just a child in their eyes.

(Remember, I have very little information on your situation, and on yourself as a person [maturity, etc], so I am kind of shooting in the dark, and trying to cover all bases. I hope I didn't offend you)

Good Luck!