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ha_ha · Oct 31, 2009, 08:01 AM

Ok I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16 almost 17 and he really wants sex. I just don't feel like I'm readyy. What do I do ?

jmjoseph · Oct 31, 2009, 08:06 AM

You're NOT ready. Tell him not just no, but to find someone his own age.

There will be plenty of time for things like sex when you get older.

Go enjoy being young.

talaniman · Oct 31, 2009, 08:21 AM

Tell him NO, and if he keeps asking dump him, because that's all he wants.

barbiechick123 · Nov 2, 2009, 08:59 PM

Dude, why would an almost 17 year old want to date a fresh 14 year old? Ohh I don't know..

Dump him

EverettDad · Nov 2, 2009, 09:04 PM

Don't ever do anything you don't want to do. You are too young and it really can wait.

TJ17 · Nov 3, 2009, 06:58 AM

Originally Posted by barbiechick123

Dude, why would an almost 17 year old want to date a fresh 14 year old? Ohh I dunno..

dump him

Why do 20 year olds marry 70 year olds, why do 14 year olds go out with 17 year olds... who cares?. love or money isn't the issue, what is, is the fact that this girl isn't ready to have sex yet full stop.

My advice for what it's worth is, stick to your guns, if you aren't ready then tell him firmly, and if he really loves you he will respect that without harping on it anymore, but if he continues and tries to make you feel bad in the hopes that you'll give in, then it's time to cut him loose... and find someone who'll respect you more. ;)

TwistedContext0 · Nov 3, 2009, 11:30 AM

If you aren't ready, don't try and trick yourself into thinking you are just because your boyfriend wants the sex so bad. 14 is a young age anyway, so why waste it on something that you may regret. If he really cared about you and wanted to be with you, he would wait until you are both ready.

justcurious55 · Nov 3, 2009, 11:35 AM

I'm sure you got it the first few times, but I'll say it again anyway. If you're not ready, wait. There's no rush. If he's trying to rush you, dump him. He's not worth your time.

Silverfoxkit · Nov 3, 2009, 11:45 AM

Sex is not a small thing to be taken lightly, whether you are 14 or 41. Not only does it put your bosy at risk for an STD or pregnancy, it can make you emotionally vurnerable and hurt to.

If you are not ready for sex then you are not ready. Like everyone else has sais already, do NOT let this guy push you into anything that you are not comfortable with. You do not want to have to look back on your first time with regret and shame as too many girls who don't have the courage to say NO and enforce it. You cannot give your virginty twice so you need to wait until you have found the time and person that you wish to give it to and the time is not now nor that person this guy.

If he cares about you he will understand and drop the issue. If he doesn't quit pressuring you then he needs to get the part of your anatomy located bellow your ankle instead, right in the rear and out the door.

justcurious55 · Nov 8, 2009, 04:06 PM

I completely disagree with you silvia. Sex should absolutely be discussed beforehand for numerous reasons. It's important to know if either person has std's. I like to know my partner's history. I'm not comfortable being with a guy who I know has been in bed with every other girl they've talked to. And it's not just about being inspired by the other person. Just because there's an attraction doesn't mean anyone needs to jump into bed and act on it. For some, they feel the need to wait for marriage. For others it's just waiting for a special someone. That's good that you don't regret your spontaneous act but there are plenty out there that absolutely regret losing their virginity so spontaneously and it is entirely inappropriate for you to suggest to a 14 year old that losing her virginity should be spontaneous.

Fr_Chuck · Nov 8, 2009, 04:20 PM

Several real issues
1. you never ever do anything you don't feel right about

2. 14 is way to young to even consider having sex

3. if you care for him, having sex makes him a criminal since I don't know anywhere that a 14 year old can legally have sex. He would be a rapist even if you agreed to it

4. you are not ready to be a mother and have a baby, even with the best birth control, no method is 100 percent

SilviaPhd · Nov 15, 2009, 05:04 PM

You don't do it. The need for having sex will

Come to you naturally when u'll be ready.