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    guitarteacher18 Posts: 45, Reputation: 5
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    Feb 4, 2011, 08:52 AM
    Am I the only person who finds this weird?
    My school(not going to post the name of said school) is a terrible place
    And I'm not just saying that because I'm an angstey teenager
    I'm sure a lot of other schools are like this though
    Its full of steryotypes, seriosly its aweful, and I don't mean racist steriotypes either, I mean mtv's cliché view on what high school kids are like
    Its not all like that, but the people who are like that are the small majority, and kind of take it to an extreme
    It almost seems like they try and be unlikeable cruel human beings
    But then again, their kids, so I'm not so sure
    But that statement, I guess, is just a little background and support for my question

    My girlfriend and I have been dating for a long time, and its pretty cool
    I love her, she loves me, kind of relaxed, outside of the occasional argument
    She has had a history of dating people who she didn't like
    So have I
    But I know to drop all contact with my exs, where she just kind of lets them fade away
    But she dated this guy who doesn't get the concept of dating
    So he tried to flirt with her whilste he was aware of the fact that she had a boyfriend, i.e me
    So she politley told him she didn't want to talk to him
    And he thought it was me, like trying to manipulate her into doing it or something
    But that doesn't exactly matter
    The thing is, he tried to play it off like he just wanted to be friends
    Friends that, I guess, call each other cute and say they miss dating
    She said she didn't, and again, thought it was the controlling puppet hand of the cockblock boyfriend
    She told him that she has no interest in being friends with an ex, espessually considering the fact that I never do it, it would bother her if I did just like it would bother me if she did
    I don't know what it was, but he didn't understand, he said, and I quote, "but me and soandso do it, and shes dating one of my friends..."
    I find this weird
    But it happins all the time in my school
    Mostly the junior class (I'm a senior)
    But is it just me, or is staying friends with an ex kind of, a little weird
    I am aware though there are some people who can do it, but in this case, the way it happins in my school is like musical chairs kind of

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    Feb 4, 2011, 09:02 AM

    Being friends with an ex is not uncommon, as a teen or an adult, the problem occurs when there are still feelings involved or the current partner is upset by the contact.

    Teenage relationships on the whole don't last very long, there infused with drama and playing out adult scenerios (without the sexual relationship, of course!)... they need to be done,that's how we learn about relationships as teens.

    People are the same where ever you go, children, teens, adults and the elderly, if you were picked up and dropped into a school in ireland the cliques would be the very same, the teenage dramas, boyfriend/ girlfriend problems would be very similar.

    To address your question, if your both honest in your relationship and can give each other ley way about talking to exs and both knowing the bounderies there should not be too much of a problem.

    Not every teenage boy your age may be as emotional mature as you, you may need to take that into consideration.

    This is good practice for open and honest communication in relationships in future years.
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    Feb 5, 2011, 12:40 AM
    My relationships pretty laid back
    I'm very private about my goings on with my girlfriend, I talk about her a lot though, mostly because she's pretty awesome
    I just find it odd, being friends with an ex, maybe its because my exes were all manipulative users, could be
    I asked my dad, he said it seemed weird to him
    My girlfriend and I also brought it up with her mom, whose from Russia, also said it was weird
    Maybe its just our culture, I'm not sure
    But I still find it kind of weird, also a little bit immature, and a waste
    Making the relationship a waste really
    I figure, if you can't keep someone in a relationship, you were never good friends to start with
    But then again, I don't make friends with girls before I date them
    I'm not sure
    Maybe I'm just wrong
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    Feb 10, 2011, 11:51 AM
    Me and my ex. Boyfriend became best friends after we stopped being together, and a lot of people in my school are still friends with their ex.s'. I suppose it depends on how secure and 'real' the relationship is, and it would be a lot easier if I knew your age to be able to answer the question.
    In my opinion, I think it's about how trusting and how well you know the other person. For example; if the person you were going out with was like your best friend, somebody who you trusted and cared about a lot, but the relationship as going out wasn't working, then there would be no reason to not be friends, if it was that special. However, the younger you are, the more trivial (and I don't say this to offend) relationships can be, as in, one minute you're 'in love', and the next, you 'hate' each other. Hope this has helped.
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    Feb 14, 2011, 07:56 AM
    Me and my ex. Boyfriend became best friends after we stopped being together, and a lot of people in my school are still friends with their ex.s'. I suppose it depends on how secure and 'real' the relationship is, and it would be a lot easier if I knew your age to be able to answer the question.
    In my opinion, I think it's about how trusting and how well you know the other person. For example; if the person you were going out with was like your best friend, somebody who you trusted and cared about a lot, but the relationship as going out wasn't working, then there would be no reason to not be friends, if it was that special. However, the younger you are, the more trivial (and I don't say this to offend) relationships can be, as in, one minute you're 'in love', and the next, you 'hate' each other. Hope this has helped.
    I'm 17
    I feel my relationships secure, I trust my girlfriend but not other people
    It wasn't that I didn't trust my girlfriend, not at all, but I didn't trust the guy and I really don't like it when people try and get involved in my relationship

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