Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
    striped_tears32's Avatar
    striped_tears32 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member

    Apr 6, 2010, 10:29 AM
    Am I bisexual?
    I am 16 years old, and a Christian. So all my life it's pretty much been a given that I should be attracted to the male sex. But since I was about 13, I've noticed an attraction to girls [checking them out at the mall, noticing how hot my girl friends were] and have regular fantasies about being with a girl. A few months ago a [female] friend and I got drunk and started making out, and I thought it was amazing. She, on the other hand, was a little uncomfortable afterwards and we don't talk much anymore. I am still very attracted to boys though just as much, if not more, than I am attracted to girls. I know I'm the only one who really knows if I'm bisexual, but does this just sound like a normal, curious teen girl? Or is this not normal?
    patrick12's Avatar
    patrick12 Posts: 6, Reputation: 0
    New Member

    Apr 6, 2010, 10:59 AM
    Its not normal in the eyes of the lord, I have known girls to mess around when they were younger and boys also that were not gay. We all have a tendence to sin what ever it mite be, we all have our hang ups, we must fight through these feeling what ever they are and do the right thing. It is very clear in the bible that homosexuality is wrong, and I'm sure your concience is telling you that also. I think that are young boys and girls are being conditioned through there schools and music and media in general saying it is OK at a very vonurable time in there life, and confusing the youth. The bottom line is that it is sin, and sin is wrong. Get good christian help not some one that is going to talk down to you but talk with you.
    hheath541's Avatar
    hheath541 Posts: 2,762, Reputation: 584

    Apr 6, 2010, 11:04 AM

    First off, I would like to say, that being christian doesn't mean you can't be bisexual, or even gay. I have known many bisexual and gay people who were christian.

    Now, to get down to answering your questions: it sounds very possible that you may be bisexual.

    I went through much the same thing when I was your age. I found myself appreciating how my girl friends looked and being jealous when they had boyfriends. I told myself it was normal and didn't mean anything. Then I got to college and ended up with a crush on my roommate, and it became impossible to deny it anymore.

    The label you place on yourself doesn't matter. All labels do is limit you. The ONLY important thing is that you feel good about who you are.

    You can check out the link I'm posting at the end of this. They have a mailing list where you can talk to other lgbt and questioning teens without having to worry about being judged. You'll find people on the list going through situations like your's, and any number of others. It's a great place to interact and work though things out by talking to people who can relate to what you're going through.

    Now, a cautionary word. Getting drunk and making out with your friends can be disastrous. I'm not going to go into the dangers of alcohol and underage drinking, I'm sure you hear that more than enough. Making out with friends, especially while drunk, can ruin friendships. She can discount it as just being drunk, while you see it as much more. She can convince herself that you took advantage of her, even if she initiated things. She can be scared of the feelings it awakens and pull away to avoid feeling them again. She may return the feelings, putting both of you in a relationship neither of you is ready for.

    Before you even think of pursuing a relationship with another girl, make sure you'll be able to handle it. That means, being willing and able to tell the truth about the relationship and face the responses from other people, especially your families and friends. You'll need to be emotional and mentally ready to be out and open, even if you decide to keep your relationship a secret. If you're not ready, then you won't be able to handle the pressure of keeping the relationship hidden OR of being out.
    EmoPrincess's Avatar
    EmoPrincess Posts: 1,068, Reputation: 92
    Ultra Member

    Apr 6, 2010, 12:46 PM

    Had to spread the rep Heath, but Well said!

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions


Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.

Check out some similar questions!

Am I a bisexual or what? [ 12 Answers ]

I have a girlfriend that we sometimes have sex and I have sexual feelings with her. But sometimes when I see pictures of other guys penises it turns me on I don't know why caz I'm getting more confused.:confused: The pictures only turns me on but I don't like or desire a guy to sleep with me...

Am I bisexual? [ 11 Answers ]

I'm a 25 year old straight woman who likes watching porn (alone) who has always dated men. But every time I watch porn I get much more aroused by female's body than that of men. I don't know why, it's been like this since I was 15. Penis arouses me too, but not as much as female breasts. I had a...

Am I bisexual [ 17 Answers ]

I am a 45 year old white male. I love women and I am very atracted to them.But here is my problem.I love the male penis I do not find men attractive.BUT ihave always wanted to perform oral sex on a guy I love wearing women's panties I want a guy to do me analy and I want to suck him off. When I...

I'm I bisexual? [ 5 Answers ]

I enjoy the company of boys, I can get along very Well with them and I enjoy having sex with them I like boys a lot but I also enjoy kissing girls but I think it's just for fun and actually I have only Kissed girls when I am drunk but lately I keep Kissing this girl also when we are drunk but...

View more questions Search