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Dark but not Heartless · Jan 10, 2007, 04:43 PM

Tell the police. If he beats you and makes threats, that's a crime. Have him aressted so that even if you never see him again, at least he won't be able to hurt anyone else.

thickbomb12306 · Jan 10, 2007, 05:48 PM

Originally Posted by Luv_My_Reece

Hi I'm 17 and I dated this guy for 2 years and now I think I'm pregnant by him. We haven't spoken in 3 months and I have a restraining order against him because he used to beat me and the last time we spoke he said if I was pregnant than he would hurt the baby and now I'm afraid to tell him and I wanted to know what some other people my age thought about it. He made it clear before I thought I was pregnant that if I ever was he wanted nothing to do with either one of us. Should I tell him or just go it alone??? I do have a new boyfriend who has an 11 month old and supports me and loves me either way. What do you guys think I should do?:confused:

You should fore get about that creep 7 continue to be happy with the man who respects you for you also try to keep an idea on what that fool is doing 7 where he is at so when your older & stable you can let him know he has a child 7 why you didn't tell him sooner but make sure your strong enough 7 well stable to confront him because he sounds crazy!

verycurious · Jan 11, 2007, 11:09 AM

I would tell him if I were you and demand child support from his flaky @ss. Let the cops or your close friends deal with him if he tries to hurt you. However, I guess this would be a bit hard if you still love him. Otherwise, I'd say go for it.

jaimie02 · Jan 12, 2007, 07:04 PM

My cousin is going through a similar problem, only she split with her boyfriend when her daughter was 1 1/2. Now it is really tough on her and she's asking the same question. Its good you have a restraining order. Now I know you probably don't want to talk to your parents about this issue- I wouldn't either- but if you are pregnant, they'll find out eventually, right?

I DO NOT agree with "Toocool12" DO NOT have an abortion, no matter what. If you are pregnant you need to bring this baby into the world. If you did not use protection or any form of birth control then you knew the risks. It was your dicision to have sex and you knew the possible consequences. Now you have to live with them. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh

rattl3rdance · Jan 28, 2007, 01:42 AM

Stick with the guy that will stay by your side and supports you. If that other guy threatened to hurt your baby, you shouldn't go within at least 200 yards of him. Just steer clear of your ex

confusedgirl · Jan 29, 2007, 03:03 PM

Don't TELL HIM! You would never want to harm your child. Keep it to yourself. And you do NOT need to stress or worry about this man coming back into your life. If you child wants to meet him, or get involved with him again once they are older, than let them meet. But otherwise. Don't tell him

crosscanadianragweedfan04 · Jan 30, 2007, 10:25 AM

I would make sure he couldn't hurt me, then tell him. He has a right to know he has a baby, even if he doesn't want him/her. You never know if, later on, he will want to help take care of him/her.
KMEH

IzzyWizzy · Feb 1, 2007, 04:50 PM

The first step, I think, is to take a pregnancy test and find out for sure, as many people have already said. Then, if you find out you are, you should consider abortion because having a baby at this point may make life more difficult for you at this age. But if you want to have the baby, it's up to you. And in that case, it seems like your new boyfriend is a kind, supportive guy and you're lucky to have him. I'd say the boyfriend you had before would not understand and could even hurt you- so end it with him. Hmm also, I'd say talk it over with your parents; I'm sure they'll have the best advice for you.

Ging1994 · Feb 1, 2007, 07:08 PM

You should try to avoid him and try to live life as smoothly as you can

tru3_lov3 · Feb 2, 2007, 07:58 PM

First of all, go to the doctor or buy a prgnancy test asap. If your missed your period for a long it could mean your pregnant or your stressing over the fact that you may be pregnant. If you are, depending on your beliefs is abortion or adoption something you've thought of. This new boyfriend of yours seems to be a ideal boyfriend and I would stay with him. Is he a good father? Does he treat you right? IF so, you should stay with him. If he's okay with you having a baby that isn't his during the relationshp, then keep it. Remember though that depedning if your still in school or not, babies are a lot of responsibility. Your ex seems like a psyco. He needs anger management. Don't bother telling him your pregnant, but if you keep it, you need to tell him, it's his right to know. Plus he'll have to pay child support. If he's threatening you and the baby, your child's life will be thought of as a mistake and you could put yourself and th e baby at danger. Don't you have dreams like to go to college or something. Think about your future.

chipmunk2921 · Feb 6, 2007, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

I so disagree, why should her inocent unborn child suffer the consequences of un protected sex!

I disagree with abortion too. If your new boyfriend has an 11 month old and supports you and his kid and you love him I think you shouldn't tell your ex. All you need is the boyfriend you have now.

kanicky73 · Feb 6, 2007, 11:19 AM

First and foremost I agree with Krs, most pregnancies by a 17 year old are unpredicted and unprotected, a mature decision needs to be made here. Secondly, all of you are forgetting one very important thing here, I full heartedly agree that she needs to not tell him, have the baby and lean on the new guy to help her through this. What we are all leaving out here, is why does this loser get to get off scott free? Once the baby is here, he can't harm her unborn child anymore, but he needs to get his butt to court to set up child support. Why should she have to financially support this child on her own. A loser like that is only thinking of himself and how much a baby would cost him! Too bad he should have thought about that before he had unprotected sex as well. It goes both ways, a woman can offer the protection just as easy as a guy can. She also needs to make sure that the restraining order she has in place does not expire. If it is set to during the time she is pregnant or after the baby is born she needs to keep on top of that.

rhia · Apr 30, 2007, 07:12 PM

Originally Posted by Luv_My_Reece

Hi I'm 17 and I dated this guy for 2 years and now I think I'm pregnant by him. We haven't spoken in 3 months and I have a restraining order against him because he used to beat me and the last time we spoke he said if I was pregnant than he would hurt the baby and now I'm afraid to tell him and I wanted to know what some other people my age thought about it. He made it clear before I thought I was pregnant that if I ever was he wanted nothing to do with either one of us. Should I tell him or just go it alone??? I do have a new boyfriend who has an 11 month old and supports me and loves me either way. What do you guys think I should do?:confused:

Umm, if he said he would hurt the baby... don't tell him. Because if he actually beat you, what makes you so sure that your child could be safe with him? Be careful. If you're ready to be a mother and want to be one, then you should raise the child. If you are not ready, then don't.

shorty_got_skills · May 1, 2007, 07:25 AM

I think you should tell your ex, cause every guy has a right to know if he has a mini him walkking around. And if he doesn't care then screw him! You have someone new that loves you for you and that's all us girls need! GOod Luck!

9hththt2 · Nov 10, 2007, 05:15 AM

Originally Posted by Luv_My_Reece

Hi I'm 17 and I dated this guy for 2 years and now I think I'm pregnant by him. We haven't spoken in 3 months and I have a restraining order against him because he used to beat me and the last time we spoke he said if I was pregnant than he would hurt the baby and now I'm afraid to tell him and I wanted to know what some other people my age thought about it. He made it clear before I thought I was pregnant that if I ever was he wanted nothing to do with either one of us. Should I tell him or just go it alone??? I do have a new boyfriend who has an 11 month old and supports me and loves me either way. What do you guys think I should do?:confused:

If I were you I wouldn't tell him.
And you know what... I would never have an abortion - that's a horrible thing to do... You have to protect your child... And yourself.
I'm sure that if this guy who is with you really loves you he's going to be a great father, he's going to stay always by your side, respect you and help you with your baby. Good luck

9hththt2 · Nov 10, 2007, 05:17 AM

I totally agree.

N0help4u · Nov 10, 2007, 10:12 AM

I would let it go for now. If you tell him now he could give you a lot of emotional stress while you are pregnant and that is not good for you or the baby. He is out of your life and you have a good chance at a new future with your new boyfriend.
It would be better to wait until an appropriate time comes up to tell him. Like maybe after he sees the child. You could mention something like-- it might be his but your boyfriend is raising him like his own-. Then he knows but he also realizes you haven't come after him for support or anything. Often mothers, fathers, grandparents, etc... say they do not want anything to do with the baby until after they actually see it.

mustang0529 · Dec 9, 2007, 09:30 PM

If I were you I wouldn't tell him he doesn't diserve you or this baby think of both of you you wouldn't want your baby to be hurt by him the safest thing to do is just let it be!! just because the other guy isn't the father that doesn't mean that he's not going to be there with you threw the hole thing and for when the baby is born!! Just be happy and not tell him!!

bjorn2256 · Dec 15, 2007, 11:32 PM

I´m 14, but if he has threaten you, you should probably tell someone, either, a guidance counselor, maybe your parents, or another trusted adult.

blitz1 · Dec 18, 2007, 10:49 AM

Originally Posted by Luv_My_Reece

Hi I'm 17 and I dated this guy for 2 years and now I think I'm pregnant by him. We haven't spoken in 3 months and I have a restraining order against him because he used to beat me and the last time we spoke he said if I was pregnant than he would hurt the baby and now I'm afraid to tell him and I wanted to know what some other people my age thought about it. He made it clear before I thought I was pregnant that if I ever was he wanted nothing to do with either one of us. Should I tell him or just go it alone??? I do have a new boyfriend who has an 11 month old and supports me and loves me either way. What do you guys think I should do?:confused:

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