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    May 31, 2010, 08:20 PM
    13 year olds dating 16 year olds
    Ok, I'm 13 and I dated a 16 year old. We still remain contact with each other and even when I tell him I want to be friends he still pursues me. I like him a little still and I broke up with him because of our age differences I know my mother would kill me if she found out. Anyway should I be with him or just remain friends.
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    May 31, 2010, 08:23 PM

    You should stay single and finish growing up.
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    May 31, 2010, 08:25 PM

    But I really like him any more options?
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    May 31, 2010, 08:30 PM

    You're 13. He's 16. You never should have been dating him in the first place.
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    May 31, 2010, 08:31 PM

    Become good friends with him. If in 3 years when your 16 you still like each other then date. But for now your too young to be in a relationship.
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    May 31, 2010, 09:53 PM

    Like you said, your mother will kill you.
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    Jun 1, 2010, 07:01 AM
    Listen to the voice inside your head telling you that this is inappropriate, and not a good match for you.

    You are in charge of you! If you broke up with him because of the age difference, and all the problems that would result if you kept it up, then stick to it, and move on.

    If you have to worry right off the bat if it is right or not, knowing that your mother would kill you, think about what you would have to do to see him. Sneak around, lie, abandon your friends, and keep it all a secret.

    That is not the way a good healthy relationship works.

    He is not to tell you what you feel is right, is wrong. Stick to your guns, you are doing the right thing in ending it.
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    Jun 1, 2010, 07:55 AM

    Talk to your mom about what you're feeling. She may NOT kill you, and you may be surprised that she understands.
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    Jun 1, 2010, 10:03 AM

    Trust me just remain friends. Why can't us kids just act our age?
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    Jun 1, 2010, 10:12 AM

    He's 16 what is he even doing hanging around 13 year olds. It's actually kind of creepy. I know you like him but just stay friends with him.. what if you do date and you guys get intimate and then he just dumps you? That wouldn't be good. Stay friends. It's the summer time, it's time for fun not heartbreak.

    Your mom wouldn't kill you, she'd just be mad because there is a 16 year old boy going after her baby. It's like a threat to her. I know I would be going momma bear crazy if an older boy was going after my baby--- wouldn't you?

    Eitherway little lady, you should talk to your mom about it, ask her what her experience with boys were, and what she can teach you. Trust me your mom won't get angry, I'm sure she'll be happy to talk to you.

    Good luck, and stay safe :)
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    Jun 1, 2010, 10:37 AM

    You don't even need to be friends with him. He is pressuring you, he really needs to leave you alone.
    Talk to your mom about this, she will get mad but she can also step in and put a stop to the pressuring you are getting from him.
    Where are you coming in contact with this boy anyway?
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    Apr 11, 2012, 09:18 AM
    You should just ask him how he feels, he might still like you and anyway there's nothing wrong with a 13 year old and a 16 year old, I'm 13 and my boyf is 17, age is just a number at the end of the day..
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    Jan 8, 2013, 10:30 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by aimeexxx View Post
    you should just ask him how he feels, he might still like you and anyway theres nothing wrong with a 13 year old and a 16 year old, im 13 and my boyf is 17, age is just a number at the end of the day..
    At the end of the day, there are age of consent laws and therefore age is more than a number.

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