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    curiousteenager Posts: 16, Reputation: 5
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    Nov 13, 2008, 09:05 AM
    My 13 year old friend is pregnant!
    I am 14 and I just found out that my 13 year old friend is pregnant and she is running away to live with her brother! What should I do yo help her?

    I also found out that my other 13 year old friend wrote a story about meeting and sleeping with an Asian person and getting pregnant with him. She was also planning on running away. Her parents found out about both problems and the took her to a phsycologist! She now can't go to the school dance and I'm afraid that she will try to commit suicide over her parents choice of what to do! Whatc an I do to save her! Please help because there's not much time:(
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    Nov 13, 2008, 09:14 AM

    How sad that children are using sex as a substitute for love from those around them. Your friend needs to tell her parents and soon. It may cause a lot of problems, but the alternative is messy too. Then she and her parents need to get some professional help to deal with the underlying problems.
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    Nov 13, 2008, 09:55 AM

    Talk about kids having kids...

    She does need to tell her parents right away.

    Your friend might feel like running away, but it's too late for that; her situation is going to be following her wherever she goes.

    As much as you want to be a good friend to her now, there is only so much you can really do. I suggest you help support her by encouraging her to handle the issues with her parents. You're also very young, so you can't be expected to handle the weight of this story on your own. You should also speak with your parents so that they can help you through this.

    Your other friend belongs in the psychologist's office for now. She must be dealing with a tremendous amount of heavy things inside. Her parents are doing the right thing by sending her there and keeping a better eye on her. They should have been more in control of her in the first place, but what can you do...

    Also, missing the school dance is totally nothing. Let it go. There are many much more important things on the table right now.

    As for your side, just make sure you realize what kind of trouble you can get into if you step into things you're not ready for. Make good decisions. You can be a good friend to these girls by supporting the decisions they make with their parents. I'm sorry you are hurting about all of this. It's not easy. It's hard enough for adults; you're still mostly a kid.
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    Nov 14, 2008, 11:59 AM

    Man you people seriosuly make your years of being a teenager like years of being a full adult!
    WAT DAH HECK.
    You guys have the opportunity to enjoy, and this is how people enjoy. Sex.. sexx... sexx.. pregancy.. pregancy.. pregancy..
    Damnnnn

    LIVE UP, HAVE FUN, DATE, DO.

    But don't have sex, what the heck. When you people get married, seriosuly what's the interest to your husband/wife when you have them.

    Iz your only beginning life of good times. Don't waste it by doing that mistake.

    [[running away.. damnn.. you people are crazy.. family are your loved ones. Middle high school years of your freedom. Fun. Good times.. nott prengancy SEX RUNNING AWAY.]]
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    Nov 14, 2008, 02:22 PM
    linnealand is right. Don't worry about the dance, there are much more important issues.

    Also it is really important that you talk to your parents about this. It's important to respect privacy, and friend's privacy, but there are occasions when it's necessary to talk to someone else about them and their issues. If they are pregnant, that effects not only them; it effects the father, parents, relatives, the baby, and other friends (like yourself!). This is too much for you to take on your own, and you shouldn't. Talk to your parents about this, even though it will be really hard; do it for your friends. You sound like a responsible and caring young girl, you know what to do.
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    Nov 15, 2008, 11:32 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ladieedee21 View Post
    Man you people seriosuly make your years of being a teenager like years of being a full adult!
    WAT DAH HECK.
    you guys have the opportunity to enjoy, and this is how people enjoy. sex..sexx...sexx..pregancy..pregancy..pregancy..
    damnnnn

    LIVE UP, HAVE FUN, DATE, DO.

    but dont have sex, what the heck. When you people get married, seriosuly whats the interest to your husband/wife when you have them.

    iz your only begining life of good times. dont waste it by doing that mistake.

    [[running away..damnn..you peopel are crazy..family are your loved ones. middle high school years of your freedom. fun. good times..nott prengancy SEX RUNNING AWAY.]]


    I wasn't giving advice here..
    Issomethingqq you people need to know..
    So all good.I saidd whatever that has to be said.
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    Nov 15, 2008, 12:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ladieedee21 View Post
    I wasnt giving advice here..
    issomethingqq you people need to know..
    so all good.i saidd whatever that has to be said.

    Ladieedee, could you please use proper english. Your posts are very hard to decode, that's why you got a few disagrees. Also realize that using text talk is against the rules. Put some thought into your posts, take your time writing them so that they are as clear as you can make them.

    Thank you.
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    Nov 16, 2008, 03:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    Ladieedee, could you please use proper english. Your posts are very hard to decode, that's why you got a few disagrees. Also realize that using text talk is against the rules. Put some thought into your posts, take your time writing them so that they are as clear as you can make them.

    Thank you.
    My bad.
    I said, the post that I posted was not a advice for her. I was just saying this:

    It is something that people should know.and I said whatever has to be said.
    People are doing this mistake for what reason? Why do they do all this for? They spend their years of high school like years of being an adult with a child. Spend your middle and high school years with fun. Not thinking of sex and shyt.
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    Nov 28, 2008, 12:52 PM

    My friend got an abortion and is now in counceling. Her dad found out about so she';s not running away. My other friend was just looking for attention but know we can't hang out because her mom knows that I made out with her 18 year old son. Too bad. We still talk at school know and lifes better so thanks for helping me through this :)
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    Nov 29, 2008, 06:52 PM

    By the way why is she running away with her brother
    Where is her boyfriend or whoever got her pregnant

    By the way try to convince your friend to break down the news to her parents

    If she wants to have the child she should try to get family support if it itsnt provided tell her to stay strong
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    Nov 29, 2008, 07:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by womaningirl View Post
    by the way why is she running away with her brother
    where is her boyfriend or whoever got her pregnant

    by the way try to convince your friend to break down the news to her parents

    if she wants to have the child she should try to get family support if it itsnt provided tell her to stay strong

    Welcome to the site. Please read all previous posts before responding.

    The OP's friend had an abortion.

    Thank you.
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    Jan 8, 2009, 04:46 PM

    You need to be really supportive, tell her she can talk to you about how she feels let her confess herself to you
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    Jan 9, 2009, 02:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by paige2828 View Post
    you need to be really supportive, tell her she can talk to you about how she feels let her confess herself to you
    Please read all previous posts before responding. The OP's friends had an abortion and the OP hasn't been back since November.

    Thank you.

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