[afronte]

It is said "think twice before you speak" I don't know why despite being a good thinker I am not able to think and say the right things at the right time. Many times I happen to say wrong things and later realise I could have answered much better. Please guide so as to how can I solve this problem of mine. All suggestions are welcomed. Thanks

[simoneaugie]

A friend of mine once told me "it's ok to make mistakes, just don't make too many." If you're bothered by saying the wrong thing too much it's a problem, for you anyway. Have you analyzed where and when the mistakes happen? Are there times when what you say is helpful?

Are you listening to all of the information before speaking? Are you asking for clarification about things you don't quite understand? Are you thinking about how the other person may react to what you might say? Are you thinking too much and not just "being?" Have you tried to get to know yourself better? Do you always tell the truth? Sometimes it's better to be diplomatic than to be correct. People crave kindness and applause for their doings. Are you giving that?

[KBC]

I went through smiler situations in my past.

What did I do to stop this chaotic behavior?

I began to do those things listed above and take advice from friends(as well as adopting behaviors which I admired in peers and 'winners', in my life)

It didn't happen overnight,but did lessen in a short time, becoming less a negative(self-esteem was not effected as much with each questionable comment), and more like I was a part of a functional, productive member of the world.

How did this happen? I made a decision to do the right thing, not to do the same thing as I used to do, and make a fool of myself without thinking the idea through.

Who was I trying to impress with quick,witty remarks? ME? Everyone else? All I did was make a bad decision and a bad comment,regretting it later.

I can't tell your age by your post, but it would be a helpful thing to include if we are to pursue further discussion.

Ken