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paradissanglant · Jun 5, 2007, 08:45 PM

I have just started dating my boss, I don't know what to do because he has just broken up with his girlfriend. However, I see her daily and it bothers me. I don't know if he sees her still and he tells me he doesn't. I'm crazy about him, I want to have a relationship with him. He said we're dating rite now. But how do I ask him to take it to the next level when he has just gotten out of a relationship with his ex and he had broken up with her for me? Also, he always says that he loves things about me, like my body, my personality, my mind... is it something more than that?

J_9 · Jun 5, 2007, 08:52 PM

WOW, I must say that you are skating on thin ice, but I am sure you know that. I am sure you also know, and have heard, that workplace relationships rarely work, especially when one dates the BOSS. Bad news, maybe not right now, but if you value your job and you two break up, guess what, no job.

You have just started dating him, you are going way too fast. You are at Warp Speed by wanting to go to the next level already. Slow down, kick it back into first gear. If you insist on giong out with the BOSS, be friends first... get to know each other ouside of work.

It really is not good to go tip toeing through the tulips with the boss, it almost always ends up in a no win situation.

catsandkittensandmittens · Jun 5, 2007, 09:20 PM

I agree it will not be easy. I to dated my boss. But if you are very mature when or if you no longer see each other you can still have a working relationship. We did, I can say that we were friends before we dated and friends after we dated but it did put a strain on our friendship.

Skell · Jun 5, 2007, 09:22 PM

Slow down. Your going way too fast and it will only crash and burn at this rate. It probably will anyway being an office romance. Be very careful. Your playing with fire and the burn can be quite severe.

paradissanglant · Jun 6, 2007, 05:31 AM

Haha OK OK, well we've been dating for about 3 months now. He thinks I'm this wicked big player. I was... but since him, I've been really good. We were friends from before, but like he was always interested in what I do in another level. He always wanted to know what guys I was going out with and that he'll always be there for me. But he knows how I am, so he thinks that I'm this flirt and a player. But I don't know how to let him know that I don't want to do that anymore. I like him enough to not really care about being a player anymore...
Oh yea, here's the clincher, there's a 10 yr difference between us...

paradissanglant · Jun 6, 2007, 05:41 AM

The oldest is my boss

catsandkittensandmittens · Jun 6, 2007, 05:46 AM

Sounds as those he is impressed with your wild ways. But if you two have a friendship first it just may work out. I wish you luck and just be honest with him let him know that you really like him and show it cook him dinner, or you take him on a date pick him up pay for everything.

Fr_Chuck · Jun 6, 2007, 05:49 AM

It will almost never work, and you will be just one of many, work places affairs seldom work out well.

paradissanglant · Jun 6, 2007, 06:00 AM

Well I work at a place where there are only guys haha. He was impressed with my wild ways but now he doesn't want me to date anyone else and not flirt with anyone else. I like your idea of cooking for him. He wants me to cook for him... I just don't get him.

Ladyviper · Jun 6, 2007, 06:08 AM

Bad idea, most companies have policies about this for a reason. He is also rebounding, so odds are it is not going to end up good for you at all.

talaniman · Jun 6, 2007, 06:36 AM

He dated another at the job, and quit her for you, so your safe until he hires another young thing. Since you insist on jumping head long into this please wear a helmet as your going head first into a brick wall. Bet he has dated others from work in the past, and not just the one you know about. Better protect yourself.

diya · Jun 6, 2007, 06:56 AM

Dating at the workplace is an extremely fatal idea... It's just not work but reputation will get suffered. Bosses always demand superiority whether in the form of work or women. And since they earn well, they take pride in blowing up their money on women. Mind you, they are a whole lot of different bunch when they get home to their wives. This word " Love" has been so widely misused that I wonder when you'd realize it will be gone forever from the face of the earth. Honey, can you get out of this boss mania please... it will save you your dignity later... but if you still want to experience it first hand, then please don't come back later with a new post " ditched by boss"...

bushg · Jun 6, 2007, 07:08 AM

Originally Posted by paradissanglant

well i work at a place where there are only guys haha. he was impressed with my wild ways but now he doesn't want me to date anyone else and not flirt with anyone else. i like your idea of cooking for him. he wants me to cook for him...i just don't get him.

Then how do you see his ex girlfriend everyday? We thought he worked with both of you.. please clarify. Regradless of how good of friends you are now , whether you marry him or not or date him 1 or 2 times. If either you or him decide to call it quits there will be hard feelings it is human nature. Also you stated he liked your" wild ways"... he probably just wants to tame you... men do love a challenge. You are in a no win situation, wild girl. He is going to be so jealous of you dating or married or broken up... Best be looking for another job!